Over a decade ago, I lost my job and family because I didn’t take myself seriously. After slowly piecing my life together, I finally have a chance at redemption with my estranged daughter.
I used to be an ambitious young man with the world at my feet. I always saw myself running my own business, and for a while, I believed that I was on the right path. Looking back, I think this passion made my ex-wife, Rebecca, first fall in love with me. She even supported me during the humble beginnings of my old repair shop.
Rebecca and I had our daughter, Harriet, during this time. Unfortunately, my repair shop went bankrupt. I began to feel depressed and lost motivation. I worked as a waiter to make ends meet, but I couldn’t provide a stable lifestyle for my family.
“When are you going to get a real job?” Rebecca asked me. I had no answer. Even though I had a great relationship with Harriet during her childhood, my marriage slowly fell apart.
Rebecca and I fought all the time, and we grew further apart. One day, I was called into the restaurant and told they could no longer keep me on the staff. “We’re going to have to let you go, Jimmy,” my manager told me.
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At the time, I was at such a low point in my life that I didn’t even care. Perhaps I thought Rebecca could care for me while I looked for a new job. That day I went home and took a walk with my family. Harriet was riding in her little car with foot pedals. Rebecca had a solemn demeanor, and I sensed something was wrong.
“I’m leaving you, Jimmy. I just can’t do this anymore. It’s obvious that you’ve given up on everything,” She told me. In one day, my entire world had come crashing down. I tried to convince Rebecca to give me one more chance, but her mind had already been made up. I gave my daughter a big hug.
“Mom always told me you were a loser and I should forget about you, but I can see that you’ve changed.”
“Daddy will always love you no matter, okay Harriet?” I told her. I could tell that she didn’t understand what was going on. By the following day, Rebecca and Harriet were out of the house, and I was all alone. Rebecca took full custody of our daughter as I was unemployed.
It was only then that I realized how much of a loser I was. I couldn’t even take care of Harriet as I had no savings or job lined up. In what felt like a few months, Rebecca had already moved in with a new partner, Eric. “Until you get your life in order, don’t even think about talking to Harriet,” Rebecca told me.
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I used the last of my money to buy Harriet a gift for her birthday party, a small bunny rabbit. I also wrote a note which read, “I miss you so much. Happy Birthday. Love Daddy.”
When I reached Eric’s house, I saw he was pretty rich. He had thrown a big birthday party for Harriet, with mascots and a jumping castle. I felt ashamed. My daughter had a new dad. Eric could provide Harriet with things I couldn’t even dream of buying.
I left my gift at their front gate and left. At this point, I was in a very dark place and couldn’t see a way forward. I decided to leave the coast and move cities. All I had to my name was the house my father, Frank, left me.
Since I was flat broke, I sold the house and moved into an apartment in a town in a different state.
I worked odd jobs at times to make a bit of money. Two years after I left my family behind, I was broke again. The following month, I was evicted. I found myself out on the street with nowhere to turn.
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I can’t keep living like this, I realized. I walked into the local store and begged for a job. The manager recognized me from around town and gave me a chance as a cleaner in the store. In the next few months, I was promoted to cashier, and within a year, I was made administrator of the whole store.
Even though I was finally financially stable and had cleaned up my act, I was still very lonely. Years flew by, and I still wasn’t in contact with any of my family, and I had no real friends. I regularly gave some of my money to charity because I had no one to spend it on.
That all changed today, as for the first time in ages, I received mail that wasn’t an outstanding bill. It was a Christmas letter from Harriet!
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It has been 13 years since I’ve seen I have seen or heard from my daughter but I’ve been blessed with a Christmas miracle. Her words warmed my heart in a way that I haven’t felt in years. Her letter read:
“Hi, Dad. I’ve finally found you! This may come as a shock, but I’ll be flying in to see you tomorrow. We have so much to talk about. Even though mom and Eric provided me with everything growing up, I always wondered when you would come back.
Mom always told me you were a loser and I should forget about you, but I can see that you’ve changed and got yourself together. Just so you know, I still have the stuffed bunny you left me for my birthday. I named him Jimmy, so in a way, you’ve been with me all along!
See you soon. I love you, and I can’t wait.
Merry Christmas, Dad!”
This is the most incredible day of my life. I’ve missed my daughter so much, and I never thought I’d get this opportunity. I changed my life for the better and did what I could to help my community.
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Although I felt too ashamed to return home, God has blessed me with a second chance with Harriet. This time, I’ll do everything I can to make her proud and make up for all the time we missed together. After 13 long years, I finally have my shot at redemption.
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Lexi and Danny Reed, once a typical couple with ordinary aspirations, faced a significant obstacle to living life to the fullest: both were grappling with excess weight. On their wedding day, Lexi carried a burden of 480 pounds, while Danny tipped the scales at 279 pounds. The challenges imposed by their weight hindered social interactions and curtailed their engagement in various activities.
Their journey began as friends for ten years until the realization of true love prompted them to tie the knot. Danny’s remarkable quality was his unwavering acceptance of Lexi, irrespective of her appearance. Lexi expressed on Instagram: “He never saw me as my size, asked me to change, or made me feel anything other than beautiful”.
Despite Danny’s own struggles with an unhealthy lifestyle, the couple found themselves spiraling down together over time. Lexi, an emotional eater, marked her 25th birthday at 392 pounds, while Danny, two years her senior, weighed 280 pounds. Recognizing the problem, they acknowledged the need for change.
Residing in Terre Haute, Indiana, the couple knew adjustments were necessary but hesitated due to fear. Lexi admitted: “We easily consumed 4,000 calories per day”, with a diet consisting mainly of fried or fast food. The turning point came when Lexi was denied entry to a roller coaster at an amusement park due to her weight. This embarrassing moment in January 2016 prompted them to take action.
Embarking on a weight-loss journey, they faced the challenge of transforming their shared passion for food. Lexi initiated the “Fat Girl Fed Up” Instagram account, sharing their progress to inspire others. With determination and mutual support, they addressed their health concerns and the desire to start a family.
Lexi shed approximately 240 pounds, while Danny lost 70 pounds. Incorporating gym sessions into their routine, Lexi found solace in a supportive environment, facilitating her weight loss. Setting rules like no eating out, no soda, no alcohol, no cheat meals, and working out for 30 minutes five times a week, they committed to a healthier lifestyle.
A bet with friends led to a 30-day challenge without fast food, kickstarting significant progress. Organizing meals and cooking together became a regular part of their healthier mindset. Lexi’s present lifestyle reflects her new habits, garnering support from friends and Instagram followers. The transformation is drastic, and their happiness is evident.
Lexi’s weight loss journey gained traction on Instagram, amassing over 1.2 million followers in 2021. Featured on television shows, they’ve maintained humility amid celebrity, recognizing the ongoing need to uphold positive behaviors. Lexi emphasizes the significance of non-scale victories and the freedom she now experiences in her body.
Despite their achievements, Lexi and Danny continue their hard work, inspiring others with their incredible journey. Lexi encourages small changes for big results and stresses the importance of focusing on each day. The couple’s remarkable transformation serves as a beacon of motivation, demonstrating the profound impact of determination and hard work on achieving one’s goals.
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