Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
Girl Loses Star Dad at Just 2 Years Old – Fans Step Up to Support Her After He Left Her Out of His Will
In 2008, the whole world was shocked by actor Heath Ledger’s tragic death. It’s hard to believe, but it has been over 16 years since the talented Australian actor passed away, leaving many people in mourning.
The reasons behind 28-year-old Heath Ledger’s struggles are still unclear, but one thing we know for sure is that he loved his daughter, Matilda, more than anything.
If he could see how she is doing today and what she looks like, I’m sure Heath would be incredibly proud of his daughter.
Heath Ledger’s sister inspired him throughout his life. His acting skills took him from school plays in Western Australia to some of the biggest movies in the world. Even though he died at just 28 years old, Heath achieved more than many actors do in a lifetime.
He was born in 1979 in Perth, Australia. His mom was a French teacher, and his dad was a racing car driver and a mining engineer. From a young age, Heath showed a strong interest in acting, and he was a natural talent.
Heath was very close to his older sister, who inspired him to pursue acting. As a handsome twenty-year-old actor, he quickly made a name for himself after moving to Los Angeles.
His big break came in 1999 with the romantic comedy *10 Things I Hate About You*. The following year, he gained praise for his role in the blockbuster movie *The Patriot*.
However, it would take a few more years before he was cast in the film that truly changed his life forever.
When Heath Ledger was offered the role of Ennis Del Mar in *Brokeback Mountain* in 2004, he almost turned it down. However, his then-girlfriend, Naomi Watts, encouraged him to take the role, and he decided to give it a try.
That choice had a big impact on his career.
His performance as Ennis Del Mar, the tough and quiet cowboy from Wyoming, became one of the defining roles of Heath Ledger’s career.
While working on the set of *Brokeback Mountain*, Heath Ledger fell in love with actress Michelle Williams.
Sparks flew when they met during the summer of 2004; Michelle played Alma, the wife of Heath Ledger’s character.
Years later, director Ang Lee revealed that their love story began when Michelle was sent to the hospital on the first day of filming. She had twisted her knee, and Heath Ledger held her hand all the way to the hospital. He “tried to comfort her, and it was pretty obvious he was interested in her,” Lee told *USA Today*.
The two actors became very close while making the iconic movie. In fact, Heath and Michelle lived in the same small trailer while filming.
“It was really beautiful. It was very romantic. We were suddenly thrown into a little husband-wife situation. Our bed was honestly no bigger than that little round table there. My legs would hang off the end, but it was worth it. And it was comfortable, somehow,” Heath told journalist Christine Spines in 2005.
Heath Ledger had fallen deeply in love with Michelle Williams, who was one year younger than him. It didn’t take long for them to start planning their future together.
“We talked about having children very early. I have always known that I wanted to become a young father,” Ledger said in an interview, according to the Australian site News.
Just one year after her parents began dating, Matilda Rose Ledger was born on October 28, 2005. She arrived just before *Brokeback Mountain* premiered.
Four months after his daughter’s birth, Heath decided to become a stay-at-home dad so that Michelle could focus on her movies.
“I’m going to try not to work at all this year and send Michelle out to bring in the cash. I’ll be Mr. Mom. It’s something that’s very important to me—something that every dad, if he can, should do his best to achieve,” Heath said. He continued:
“My life right now is, I wouldn’t say reduced to food, but my duties are to wake up, cook breakfast, clean the dishes, prepare lunch, clean those dishes, go to the market for fresh produce, cook dinner, clean those dishes, and then sleep if I can. And I love it. I actually adore it.”
Becoming a father exceeded all of Heath’s expectations, and he once said it was “the most remarkable experience I’ve ever had.”
“Matilda is adorable, beautifully observant, and wise. Michelle and I love her so much. Becoming a father exceeds all my expectations. It’s the most remarkable experience I’ve ever had—it’s marvelous,” Ledger said in 2005.
At the same time, Heath had mixed feelings about the deeper meaning of becoming a dad and provider for his child.
“It’s like a Catch-22: I feel good about dying now because I feel like I’m alive in her, you know? But at the same time, you don’t want to die because you want to be around for the rest of her life,” Ledger said after Matilda’s birth.
In 2007, Ledger and Williams decided to end their three-year relationship, choosing to go their separate ways. However, the former couple remained close friends right up until Ledger’s untimely and tragic death.
When he passed away, Matilda was just two years old, so Williams made sure to keep her out of the press as much as possible.
At the time, the actress, who preferred doing small-scale independent films, was in Sweden working on the movie *Mammut* when she learned about Ledger’s passing. “Please respect our need to grieve privately,” Williams said at the time.
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