This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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THE EVOLVING FACE OF NICK NOLTE: UNRECOGNIZABLE FROM HIS 1970S HEARTTHROB DAYS
Nick Nolte is famous for playing strong and confident characters now, but a long time ago, he was a big heartthrob. Today, the skilled actor is 82 years old, and I have to tell you, he looks quite different from how he did back in the 1970s when he was considered a heartthrob.
I really admire Nick Nolte’s incredible talent – he’s truly one of the best actors in American cinema history.
I like how his face, with its strong, square jaw and distinct features, along with his untamed and wild hair, gives him a powerful and almost barbaric look, like a character from a Shakespeare play.
What makes his acting so captivating is his ability to be versatile and the deep emotions you can see in his eyes. Nick always delivers performances that are genuine and honest. If we check his achievements, it’s clear that many people appreciate his acting skills.
In 1991, Nolte won a big award called the Golden Globe for Best Actor in a Dramatic Movie. He was also considered for another major award, the Academy Award for Best Actor, for his role in the 1991 film The Prince of Tides.
Nick Nolte used to be a really well-known actor, especially for his strong roles in movies like Affliction and Warrior, which got him nominated for big awards like the Academy Award.
But today, he’s different from the time when he won the Golden Globe. In 2002, a famous messy picture of him taken by the police hurt his reputation. He also had some legal and personal problems that made things even more difficult.
For younger people, it might be surprising to learn that in the 1970s, Nolte was seen as the ideal American hero. He was even called the Sexiest Man Alive by People magazine.
So, how did Nick Nolte become so famous?
In high school, he wasn’t really into acting, according to his football coach in Omaha. Back then, he was good at playing football but was described as a “skinny, awkward kid with a crew cut.”
Nolte himself says he was very shy and never felt comfortable in groups when he was a kid. School was tough for him, and only later in life did he find out he had dyslexia.
The handsome Nolte, born in Omaha, Nebraska, on February 8, 1941, got his big breakthrough in the TV miniseries Rich Man, Poor Man (1976). Not long after that, he became a household name and an American heartthrob.
However, he started working as a model in the 1960s. One of his most famous shots came while he cut an impressive figure together with Sigourney Weaver for Clairol’s “Summer Blonde” hair coloring campaign back in 1972. According to Eighties Kids, the commercial remains the only time a man has ever appeared on a box of women’s hair dye.
Even though Nick Nolte wasn’t well-known at first, he got a big break when he was chosen for a show called Rich Man, Poor Man. In the series, he played Rudy’s brother Tom and portrayed the character with the charm of a true American hero.
This show completely changed Nolte’s life. He became very popular, especially with the ladies, for his role as the classic bad boy, Tom. To fit the part, he had to work hard on his body. When he played the younger version of his character, he weighed around 150 pounds.
Nolte shared, “I remember the different stages I went through for Rich Man, Poor Man. That was the biggest span in age. It went from 16 to 45. Physically, I thought of the weight I was as a sophomore in high school, which was 150 pounds. So I dropped down to that weight and got that boy body back. I ran around that Hollywood reservoir day and night,” as he told Insider in 2022.
After the success of Rich Man, Poor Man, Nick Nolte, who comes from Nebraska, kept proving he was a fantastic actor, always giving great performances. In 1982, he became a huge star in Hollywood with the action-comedy 48 Hrs.
This movie, where Nolte acted alongside Eddie Murphy, was a big deal in many ways.
“What’s not often talked about with 48 Hrs. is that it’s the first film where black and white people criticize each other,” Nolte explained in 2011.
“After Civil Rights, it was awkward for white and black people. We didn’t know how to talk to each other.”
In the 1990s, Nick Nolte was at the top of his career. He was a big star, making lots of money, and everyone respected him as an actor.
But in the 2000s, things changed. Nolte became known for more than just his work in movies and TV,
He lived up to his reputation as one of Hollywood’s bad boys. The actor faced personal problems, went through three divorces, and got arrested a few times.
Despite being named the ‘sexiest man alive’ by Hollywood, he ended up in the news for a memorable photo taken by the police.
However, since 2002, Nick has been sober.
“At one point, I was really down, and I let things slide,” Nolte explained.
“I used to drink when things got tough – like dealing with relationships or when projects didn’t work out. I even used alcohol to cope with loneliness and the ironic kind of isolation that comes with being a celebrity.”
In the last few years, Nick Nolte has been in smaller roles and he looks quite different from when he was a big Hollywood star.
Now, the experienced actor lives in a treehouse in the lovely city of Malibu, California. He built the house himself and shares it with his wife, Clytie Lane.
The star of The Prince of Tides likes to be with his kids and he enjoys reading and being outside. Nick has a son named Brawley Nolte (born in 1986) and a daughter named Sophia Lane Nolte (born in 2001).
Nick Nolte’s kids, Brawley and Sophia, tried out acting for a bit, and it seemed like they might follow in their dad’s footsteps.
Sophia even acted with her dad in a movie called Honey in the Head, where she played Nolte’s granddaughter.
“She’s like a little grown-up. Sometimes she calls me Grandpa instead of Daddy because all her friends’ dads are young. I’m almost 80. My son Brawley is in his 30s. He did some acting, but that’s not what he wanted. He’s studying to be a doctor,” Nolte shared with Saturday Evening Post.
Even though many years have gone by, Nick Nolte still has that mischievous smile, beautiful eyes, and a charming personality. At 82, he looks great and continues to do what he loves most – acting.
What’s cool is that he has a positive attitude about getting older.
“I don’t regret being old at all. I’m not having much trouble with age. I’m pretty comfortable with it, knowing that there’s one more big adventure to do. It’s kind of spooky, but I accept it. You fight like crazy until the end. I think you just have to keep moving and keep doing it,” he says.
In my opinion, Nick Nolte is often overlooked when people talk about top male actors.
Thank you for all the memories over the years, Nick! You are such a great actor and an articulate, cultured gentleman!
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