This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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I Found a Love Note Written on Our Bathroom Mirror – But It Wasn’t Meant for Me
Madison thought it was a sweet gesture when she saw a love note on the bathroom mirror after a fun night out with her husband, Ryan. The note said, “Miss you already, last night was amazing! XOXO.” She immediately assumed it was from Ryan and texted him a thank-you. But his response puzzled her: “Uh, what note, Madison?” He quickly followed up with a strange, casual message claiming he had left the note but forgot. Something about his response felt off, and Madison couldn’t shake the feeling that the note wasn’t meant for her. Could Ryan be hiding something?Throughout the day, the idea gnawed at Madison. She tried to convince herself that she was overreacting, but doubts lingered. When Ryan came home, acting normal, Madison’s suspicions only grew. After he went to bed, she did something she never thought she’d do—she went through his phone. Surprisingly, there was nothing suspicious, no secret texts, no sign of an affair, but Madison’s intuition told her something wasn’t right.
The situation escalated when Ryan came home early from work one day, claiming his dad, Bob, needed help with his laptop. Madison found it odd that Bob had been coming over so frequently, especially when she wasn’t home. A few days later, Ryan’s mom, Claire, called, sounding upset and asking if Madison had seen Bob.That’s when things started to click. Madison realized Bob had been visiting their home a lot more than usual. Determined to find out what was really going on, Madison pretended to run errands but parked nearby to keep an eye on the house. Her heart sank when she saw a woman, who was not Claire, walk up to her front door. She waited a few more minutes before quietly returning home. When she entered, she heard the shower running and crept toward the bathroom. Peeking through the slightly ajardoor, Madison saw Bob in the shower—with the woman who had entered her house.The reality hit her hard. The note wasn’t from Ryan or meant for Madison—it was from Bob’s affair, using their home as his secret meeting place. Furious, Madison confronted Bob, who was shocked but unable to deny the truth. The woman quickly fled, and Madison was left in disbelief. That night, she confronted Ryan, who initially denied knowing anything. But when pressed, he admitted that he had known all along. He explained that he had been covering for his father to keep the affair hidden from his mother, believing it was better that way. Madison was outraged. While Ryan wasn’t cheating, he had been lying to her for months, allowing his father to use their home for his deceit. The couple argued for hours, but Ryan didn’t seem to grasp why Madison was so upset. He defended his actions, saying it was family business and he didn’t want to get involved. But Madison couldn’t forgive the lies and the betrayal. That night, she told Ryan to sleep on the couch and, the next morning, called Claire to tell her everything. Claire was devastated but calm. She told Madison to pack her bags, and together, they checked into a hotel, using money Bob had recently given Claire. What was supposed to be for her birthday weekend was now being used to plan their next steps. By the end of the week, both women filed for divorce.Madison and Claire now share a cozy apartment, starting fresh and free from the lies and betrayal. They’ve found strength in each other, and despite the heartbreak, they’re both ready for a new chapter in their lives, free from the toxic relationships that had once defined them.
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