After losing his wife, Jim finally finds a woman who makes him believe that happiness can be found once again. As Jim navigates the fine line between his daughter and welcoming Emily into his life, he realizes that blending a family isn’t as easy as he thought it would be.
I met Emily three years after my wife’s death. Losing Karen had shattered me. She was the person that I thought I would grow old with, and more importantly, Karen was the mother of our precious daughter, Amy.
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There were days when I thought that I’d never heal from the loss of my wife, but as time went on, I knew that hope would come.
“It’s okay to feel your feelings, Jim,” my mother would say. “But it’s also okay to dream of a new start. Nobody will ever replace Karen. Not for you, nor for Amy. But it’s okay to want joy.”
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And meeting Emily made me feel like it was a fresh start. After a few months of dating, I decided to introduce her to my daughter, who was nine at the time.
“Are you sure, Jim?” Emily asked me, her eyes wide, when we were at dinner.
“Yes,” I reassured her. “Don’t get me wrong, Em. I think we’re great together, but I can only continue this relationship if you get along with my daughter.”
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“No,” Emily said, sipping on a cocktail. “It’s understandable, and I absolutely agree with that. Your daughter comes first.”
To my relief, they hit it off immediately. Amy, always so perceptive, even at her young age, was thrilled to have another woman in her life.
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“I think Emily is pretty cool, Dad,” Amy told me when we went out on a little father-daughter ice cream date.
“So, you like her?” I asked, trying to navigate the situation from my daughter’s point of view.
“I do, Dad,” she said, picking the cherry off her sundae.
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Two years later, I proposed to Emily.
Of course, by this time Emily had woven herself seamlessly into our family, and even Karen’s parents seemed to think that her influence was good on Amy.
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“Amy loves her,” Karen’s mom, Lily, told me one day when I was picking my daughter up from her home. “You have our blessing, Jim. Not that you needed it, but you have it.”
I was thrilled. I had never wanted my in-laws to think that I was replacing Karen or hiding away her memory. I just wanted a sense of happiness.
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But as Emily and I threw ourselves into wedding preparations, lines started to get blurred.
“I can’t wait to be a flower girl, Dad,” Amy said, twirling around the living room, pretending that she was wearing a fancy dress.
“I can’t wait for that either,” I replied.
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But, during a conversation about the ceremony, Emily suggested that her nephew take that role instead.
“What changed? I thought Amy was going to be the flower girl,” I asked, puzzled.
“Oh, she can still be involved. I just think it might be cute to have little Joey as the flower boy,” Emily replied, her smile not quite reaching her eyes.
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“No, Emily. Amy is my daughter and she’ll be the flower girl. They can do it together, but Amy will have her moment.”
Emily didn’t argue further, but I noticed a flicker of annoyance cross her face. I brushed it off, thinking it was just pre-wedding stress.
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The night before the wedding, I found myself sitting in Amy’s room, tucking her into bed. She looked up at me with Karen’s eyes. The same warm, loving eyes that had captivated me from the moment we met.
“Are you excited about tomorrow?” she asked.
“I am, sweetheart,” I replied, smoothing her hair. “But it’s also a little scary, you know? Big changes.”
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“Do you think Mom will be happy?” she asked.
Her question pierced my heart. I thought about Karen, about how she would have wanted me to find happiness again.
“I think she would be, Amy.”
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The day of the wedding arrived, and everything seemed perfect. The venue was stunning, all shades of pink woven together. I was walking down the hallway, waiting to head to the altar when I heard Emily’s bridesmaids talking behind a door.
“Em was clear. We need to accidentally lock Amy in the dressing room before the ceremony,” a voice said.
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“Is she insane? The kid is her future stepdaughter. Why should we do it?” another voice replied, incredulous.
“Emily said that she cannot stand seeing Amy right now. She found photos of Jim’s wife and Amy looks identical to her,” someone explained.
“And so what? Emily can’t stand the fact that a child looks like her mother? I want nothing to do with this.”
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My blood ran cold.
Anger surged through me. How dare they plan to exclude my daughter? I took a deep breath and composed myself.
I had to find my daughter.
“Dad!” Amy said when I opened the door to the dressing room that I knew my mother and Amy were in.
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“Stay with me,” I said, pulling her close. “You don’t have to walk down as a flower girl. You can walk down the aisle with me.”
My daughter beamed and threw her arms around my neck.
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As the ceremony began, Emily walked down the aisle, radiant in her wedding dress, a smile plastered on her face. But when she saw Amy, her expression shifted from joy to shock.
There was my daughter, standing right beside me.
Emily reached me, her eyes wide with fury.
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“What is she doing here?” she hissed.
I kept my voice low but steady.
“What? Are you surprised to see Amy?”
“Jim, she was supposed to be… I mean….” Emily stammered, trying to recover.
“Supposed to be in a locked room? Is that what you mean, Emily?” my voice rose, and the guests started to murmur, sensing something was wrong.
“Jim, I…” she began.
I turned to the audience.
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“Ladies and gentlemen,” I said loudly, addressing the audience. “I have something to share with all of you. It appears that Emily and her bridesmaids had planned to lock my daughter, Amy, in a dressing room to prevent her from being a part of this wedding. They did this because Emily couldn’t stand Amy reminding her of my late wife.”
Gasps and murmurs of shock rippled through the crowd. Emily looked mortified.
“Jim, please, I can explain,” Emily pleaded, her voice desperate.
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“Explain how you thought it was okay to hurt my daughter!To exclude her from this important day in our lives!” I demanded, my voice shaking with emotion.
Amy stood at my elbow, looking confused but brave.
“Emily, I thought you loved Amy as much as you claimed to love me. But your actions show otherwise.”
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“Jim, I was just… I didn’t want to be reminded of your wife,” Emily’s voice trailed off.
“Of my past? Emily, my past is part of who I am. Amy is a part of who I am. And if you cannot accept that, then you don’t belong in our future,” I declared, my decision made.
The room fell silent.
Emily’s bridesmaids exchanged uneasy glances, unsure of what to do.
“What now, Jim?” Emily asked me, her shoulders slouched.
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“This wedding is off,” I announced. “I will not marry someone who would go to such lengths to hurt my child. We’re done here.”
Tears filled Emily’s eyes, but she knew there was no arguing with me. Not when it came to my daughter.
Emily turned and walked out, her bridesmaids trailing behind her.
I knelt down to Amy’s level, hugging her tightly.
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“No one will ever come between us, sweetheart,” I whispered.
The guests, still in shock, began to applaud. I stood up, took Amy’s hand, and led her down the aisle, not as a bridegroom but as a proud father who stood up for his daughter and his family.
The following day, I took my daughter out for breakfast. I needed to have a moment alone with her, ready to answer any questions she may have.
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“Are you sure it was a good idea not to marry Emily?” Amy asked, pouring syrup onto her waffles.
“Yes, sweetheart,” I declared clearly. “Do you think it would have been right to marry Emily after she locked you in a room during the ceremony?”
Amy shook her head slowly and picked up a strawberry.
“No,” she replied. “But she did make you happy, didn’t she?”
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“For a moment,” I said truthfully. “But when I thought about what lengths she would go through, just to make herself happy… No, darling, then she did not make me happy.”
“So, you don’t blame me?” she asked me solemnly.
“Not at all,” I replied, reassuring her as much as I could.
I knew that my daughter would struggle with this. I knew that she would think about this from all angles. She embodied everything my late wife did.
“I’m glad, Dad,” she said, smiling at me.
And in that moment, I knew that I had done right by my daughter.
A smiling little girl | Source: Midjourney
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Weddings are some of the most beautiful celebrations one can experience in their life (usually). The deep connection between two lovers taking physical form in a ceremonious act for all to see is one that a lot of couples look forward to.
However, it also comes with months upon months of planning, stress, and even more planning. The one thing that a bride cannot go without—the special dress. Whether it be white, maroon, black, fluffy, frilly, or form-fitting, it must make the wearer feel likе the most beautiful woman in the whole entire world.
Some brides take the plunge of crafting their own dresses, be it for the challenge, for the love of the craft, or both. Today we delve into the story of Veronika Lindberg Heino, or Kika, who knitted her special gown for her big day in 6 weeks. She was kind enough to answer some of Bored Panda’s questions so let’s get into it!
Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, decided to take up the challenge of knitting her own stunning wedding dress
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If you were given 2.5 kg of yarn and 250 hours, what would you create? Mayhaps a blanket, mayhaps a 3D portrait, or maybe a knitted wedding dress. Seeing as you clicked on this article for a very particular reason, you probably know by now that we’ll be speaking about the last option.
Opening herself to the challenge was Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, who documented the birth of her special white dress, sharing the ups and downs with her followers on Instagram (which she started in 2017) and YouTube.
This project came about when she and her husband-to-be were both moving house and planning an impromptu wedding, making for a very stressful 7 weeks
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For what was already an intense project, life decided to add an extra bit of *spice*: they were moving house and planning their wedding, happening 7 weeks later, at the same time, so why not add in a project of great significance on top of it all? Unless you’re as skiIIed as Kika, I wouldn’t recommend it!
“I do love a challenge and I’m often a little bit over-ambitious, and the thought felt so wild and inspiring that I just decided to take the risk and do it,” the Finland-based knitter told Good Morning America (GMA). “I ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced my crazy plan on Instagram, and knew right then, there was no turning back anymore.”
She ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced her plans to her followers on Instagram, getting the project officially started with no way to turn back
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Kika based her design around Dior, Chanel, and Ulla Johnson’s dresses. She then sketched and planned the patterns. After all that, the knitting began!
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Nothing worth doing ever comes easy. It was a struggle finding time to knit in between moving, planning the wedding, and publishing her first book
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Instead of throwing Kika off balance, this added project seemed to have the opposite effect: it kept her grounded through the tumultuous time, at least for a while. Nothing worth doing comes easy, and this project was no exception, especially as she’d never knitted a dress before.
“The process was definitely intense, and the biggest struggle was to find enough time for knitting since we were in the process of moving and organizing the wedding at the same time,” said Kika. “Plus I published my first-ever knitting book, so it was definitely hectic. But, I also enjoyed it immensely and loved seeing my vision come to life in the process.”
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Then a big setback occured—her bodice was far too big, requiring her to rip it all up and start again. Her sleeves then kept slipping off, which took lots of time to fix
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Glaring issues started appearing about two weeks in when Kika had finished the bodice and tried it on for the first time—it was way too big. Disappointed, but not defeated, the bride-to-be ripped it all up, starting all over again, describing it as “a tough and frustrating moment where some tears were shed.”
One more issue came along with the slippy sleeves that kept on slipping, revealing a tad bit too much, which Kika found hilarious yet time-consuming to fix. “I made sure to film all my mistakes so I could be real and honest with my viewers, rather than only showing them the picture-perfect moments,” she told Insider.
Not having any other option (you typically can’t just go and buy a dress off the rack, as those require alterations, which take a long time), she kept moving forward until it was one week til the wedding. Encouraging messages from her followers kept her spirits up, the promise she’d made to the project at the very beginning providing her with a sense of accountability.
However, “the biggest motivator was definitely seeing for myself if I could pull my idea and vision off, and the thought of having the dress as a memory for life really kept me going, too.”
But all that didn’t deter her! Just 4 days before the big day, the dress was finished and Kika got to have a well-deserved rest
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Everything was done. She finished her dress on Tuesday, feeling more tired and frustrated than elated, but once she put it on for the ceremony, she couldn’t have been happier with the end result.
Kika got married to her husband Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home (which inspired the cottage-themed wedding tone), just 4 days after she’d finished her dress. Although her partner was a bit more skeptical about her last-minute knitting project, “in the end, he was super impressed and proud of me, and thought it looked really good too,” Kika said.
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Kika told Bored Panda that they’d met back in Spring of 2020, when she moved back home to Finland from London, as the pandemic put the world in lockdown. “Just a few months after moving back I met Juki and for our first date we walked around in Helsinki for hours since all cafés and bars were closed due to the restrictions,” she said.
“I was immediately drawn to his humor and often colorful stories of his adventures which made me laugh, and of course I found him really handsome. I think he was drawn to my enthusiasm, something we both have in common and my positive attitude towards life.”
She married Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home. Everyone loved her dress, praising her for all the effort she’d put into it
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“Over the course of the day, guests would come up to me and immediately feel the dress and comment on it. It sometimes felt likе they were more interested in the dress than in me, but I love talking about knitting, so I didn’t mind too much,” she told Insider.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295, which is a bargain when it comes to wedding dresses, which go for $1,800 on average. Her 149k followers on Instagram absolutely loved the journey, jumping in with suggestions and support any time she needed it.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295
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The 46-minute vlog of the whole journey posted on YouTube has garnered over 3.4M views, quickly becoming the highlight of her channel, which has over 253k subscribers that look forward to her knitting tutorials. “I’m absolutely amazed by all the positive attention the video and my dress has gotten, wow!” said Kika.
“I’ve received messages from people all over the world telling me I’ve inspired them to take up knitting again or to learn it, which makes me so glad. I’m also proud that I’ve maybe been able to push the boundaries and show what is possible using knitting.”
According to Kika, “knitting was actually done primarily by men at some point in history, so the fact that knitting nowadays is associated with something mostly feminine hasn’t always been the case.” Knitting is not just for grandmas, y’all!
The 46-minute vlog of the entire process garnered over 3.4M views on YouTube, inspiring hundreds of people to take up or go back to the craft
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What began as a bonding activity with her grandma when she was 5 years old has become a lifestyle, bringing together likе-minded people from all over the world. The one lesson she’d always kept was to be playful with the craft, rather than searching for perfection.
“With knitting there are a lot of ‘rules’ or principles that come with the territory which sometimes can make it feel likе you’re not doing things the right way,” she told Bored Panda. “My grandmother always encouraged me to make things without getting hung up on perfection, being creative and playful was more important.”
She hopes her followers and those who jumped on the bandwagon to see the final dress get inspired to embrace creative projects they might feel tempted to try—“even if it might feel a bit ambitious, I say go for it!”
We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and can’t wait to see what’s coming up for them next!
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A post-pandemic resurgence of knitting is a very welcome sight for many who are getting into arts and crafts for the first time or returning back to the familiar time-passing activity. Recent research shows that knitting has a measurable effect on calming anxiety, relieving stress, and aiding with chronic pain, as well as helping one build a community of friends. And you end up with a cute hat and mittens in the meantime!
“I think knitting as a craft teaches you a lot about patience and really makes you think about what kind of garments you most likе to wear,” Kika said. “When you’re going to spend 40-60 hours making a sweater, you really want to make sure it’s something that is going to stay in your wardrobe for a long time, which makes knitting a very sustainable practice, too.”
Honestly, what’s not to love!? We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and hope to see many more exciting knitting projects! Let us know your thoughts on the dress in the comments below, and I shall see you in the next one!
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