According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Sandra Bullock’s Unfortunate News and Unwarranted Attacks
American actress and producer Sandra Bullock is well-known for her flexibility and extraordinary talent in the entertainment industry.
She was born in Arlington, Virginia, on July 26, 1964, and has had a long and prosperous career in Hollywood, receiving praise from critics and a passionate following.
Bullock’s ascent to fame started in the 1990s with prominent parts in motion pictures such as “Speed” and “While You Were Sleeping.” But her performance as Leigh Anne Tuohy in 2009’s “The Blind Side” earned her an Academy Award for Best Actress, securing her place among Hollywood’s top actresses.
She is a versatile performer because of her ability to thrive in both humor and drama; popular movies like “Miss Congeniality,” “Gravity,” and “The Proposal” highlight her range.
Sandra Bullock has shown a significant dedication to philanthropy and humanitarian causes outside of the entertainment industry.
She has contributed significantly to groups that assist in the wake of natural disasters like Hurricane Katrina and the 2010 Haiti earthquake, among other charitable causes.
Her charitable endeavors demonstrate her kind and giving personality, which elevates her to the status of both a respected humanitarian and actress.
Sandra Bullock’s talent, work ethic, and personable on-screen persona are the reasons behind her long-lasting success in Hollywood. She is a well-liked character in the entertainment world because of her knack for connecting with audiences and her commitment to using her platform for good.
Sandra Bullock’s influence on Hollywood and society at large is still great and enduring as she takes on new roles and contributes to the film industry and humanitarian causes.
The gifted actress Sandra Bullock, best known for her part in “The Blind Side,” has been dealing with a number of issues in both her personal and professional lives. Her long-term partner passed away tragically recently, and now she finds herself unintentionally involved in a complex legal dispute with the Tuohy family—the real-life family that served as the inspiration for her critically acclaimed film.
Sandra Bullock’s enthralling depiction of Leigh Anne Tuohy, the Tuohy family matriarch, earned her the esteemed Academy Award in 2010. The inspirational tale of a Tennessee family that embraced and adopted Michael Oher, who would go on to become a well-known player in the National Football League (NFL), is told in “The Blind Side.”
But the movie has now been under investigation, casting doubt on the veracity of the touching tale it tells. Michael Oher alleges that the Tuohy family put him in a conservatorship so they could make money, even though they never formally adopted him.
The Tuohy family has responded by disputing these claims and saying that Oher is not telling the whole truth. He had allegedly tried to extort them for an astounding $15 million in the past. It’s getting harder and harder to figure out who to believe or trust as this legal struggle drags on.
Some have even gone so far as to call for Sandra Bullock’s Oscar to be revoked in light of the film’s increased visibility and the troubling accusations that surround it. The actor who played Michael Oher in the film, Quinton Aaron, has defended Bullock, nevertheless.
Aaron fervently defended Bullock in a recent interview, saying there was no proof that she was involved in any of the alleged wrongdoings. He makes it clear that she shouldn’t be held responsible for things that happened years later because she was just an actor going about her business.
He begs everyone to leave her alone, bringing attention to the difficulties she is currently going through on a personal level following the tragic death of her partner. Aaron asks that instead of criticizing her for something that is beyond her control, people should be kind and understanding.
Drawing from his own experience, Aaron conveys the anguish of losing a loved one and offers Bullock his support at this trying time. When online trolls propose removing her Oscar, he warns them to respect her sentiments and allow her the room she needs.
Aaron remembers Bullock with fondness, even in spite of the difficulties she has today. Bullock was kind and generous. She is friendly, competent, and a frequent source of laughter on set, according to him. He also thanks her for her insightful advice and words of wisdom, which have had a significant influence on his life.
It’s crucial to keep in mind that Sandra Bullock is unrelated to the ongoing legal battle between the Tuohy family and Michael Oher. Instead of bringing needless negativity to the life of someone going through personal challenges, let’s get together and provide our support. Sandra Bullock is deserving of compassion and consideration during this difficult period.
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