Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
49ers Star Charvarius Ward the Lose of His 1-Year-Old Daughter
Superstar football player Charvarius Ward shared heartbreaking news on Instagram yesterday, October 29, 2024. In an emotional post, he revealed that his baby daughter had passed away.
49ers cornerback Charvarius Ward recently shared heartbreaking news on Instagram about the loss of his 1-year-old daughter, Amani Joy. Ward, who founded the organization Charvarius for Change in 2021, posted a loving photo of Amani smiling beside a loved one.
In his message, Charvarius expressed his sorrow, sharing that Amani had passed away on Monday morning, October 28, 2024. He described her as a “blessing” who filled their lives with joy, teaching them patience, trust, and positivity.
The grieving father, who began his football career at Hinds Community College, spoke about Amani’s strength and courage. He shared how she brought happiness to every room with her smile, adding that she had overcome challenges at such a young age.
Charvarius and Amani’s mom, Monique, felt privileged to experience the world through Amani’s eyes, which brought positive change to their lives. Charvarius ended his message by saying, “She will forever be daddy’s best friend and mommy’s little girl. We’ll miss you and love you forever, Amani Joy.”
In addition to his post, Charvarius shared on his Instagram Story with a message on a black background, saying, “I’m Broken ,” along with a photo of Amani in a onesie with the words, “My Baby. My Life. My Queen. My Heart. My Everything .” Monique also shared a post on her Story, writing, “My baby. God why? .”
The 49ers also expressed condolences, describing Amani as bringing joy to everyone with her “sweet demeanor and contagious laugh.” They added that they stand in grief with Charvarius and Monique, offering their love and support.
Earlier this year, Charvarius had shared a series of photos of Amani on Instagram to honor World Down Syndrome Day on March 21, 2024. He shared joyful moments with her and spoke about how Amani was a blessing. Initially, he and Monique struggled with her diagnosis, but those feelings turned to love once they saw her. Amani was born on November 17, 2022, and had undergone heart surgery early in life, but her parents cherished every moment with her.
An Instagram account created by Amani’s parents captured key moments of her life, from her birth to joyful times spent with her family. Our deepest condolences go out to Amani’s parents and loved ones as they mourn her loss.
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