I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
She was expected to be Hollywood’s biggest star. But then everything changed tragically
Sharon Marie Tate’s story began on January 24, 1943, in the heart of Texas. The eldest of three daughters, she grew up in a military family, moving from city to city, each new place adding a layer to her intriguing persona.
As a child, Sharon was a beacon of beauty and grace, traits that would later define her career. By the time she was 16, she had already earned her first title, “Miss Richland,” hinting at the stardom that lay ahead.
The Hollywood Dream
Sharon’s journey to Hollywood wasn’t a simple leap; it was a series of calculated steps. Moving to Los Angeles in 1961, she started with small roles in television series like “The Beverly Hillbillies” and “The Man from U.N.C.L.E.” But it was her role in the 1967 film “Valley of the Dolls” that truly showcased her talent and charisma.
Audiences were captivated by her ethereal beauty and on-screen presence. Films like “The Fearless Vampire Killers,” directed by her future husband Roman Polanski, and “Don’t Make Waves” solidified her place in Hollywood.
Marriage to Roman Polanski and Glamour
Sharon Tate’s life was a blend of Hollywood glamour and personal charm. She met Roman Polanski in 1964 on the set of “The Fearless Vampire Killers.” Their connection was instant, and they married in a picturesque ceremony in London on January 20, 1968.
Their relationship was a whirlwind of passion, creativity, and mutual admiration, often described as a modern-day fairytale amidst the glitz of Hollywood. They say Sharon always liked shorter and plump guys. Some say it was like that because she wanted to be worshiped by her lovers.
A Dark Night in Hollywood
The fairytale, however, was tragically short-lived. On August 9, 1969, the world was rocked by the news of Sharon Tate’s brutal murder. Eight months pregnant, Sharon and four others were killed by members of the Manson Family in her Los Angeles home. This act of senseless violence not only ended her life but also marked a dark chapter in Hollywood history.
The Manson Family, led by the deranged Charles Manson, targeted Sharon’s home due to its previous occupant, a record producer who had spurned Manson. The horrific event shattered the peace of the 1960s, leaving an indelible scar on the collective memory of the nation.
She was expected to be even bigger than Marilyn Monroe and other Hollywood stars at the time. Her life was taken so early and we were deprived of an amazing and young aspiring actress.
An Enduring Legacy
Sharon Tate’s life, though tragically brief, continues to resonate deeply in popular culture. Her performances, particularly in “Valley of the Dolls,” have immortalized her as a symbol of beauty and talent cut short.
Tarantino sought to capture her essence as a vibrant, kind-hearted individual whose life was filled with promise and joy. The film received critical acclaim and reintroduced Sharon to a new generation, ensuring that her legacy as a beloved actress and a symbol of lost potential endures.
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