Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
Breaking: Whoopi Goldberg Stands in Support of Beyoncé, Vows to Leave the US with Her, “Beyoncé Is Country, I Can Assure You”
Goldberg’s departure from the United States, accompanied by Beyoncé, goes beyond mere personal support. It serves as a powerful declaration against the stifling cultural constraints that artists encounter when venturing into uncharted territories of creative expression. Goldberg elucidated, “When an artist as renowned as Beyoncé encounters resistance and criticism while exploring her musical roots and inspirations, it becomes evident that it is imperative to seek a haven that truly values and embraces artistic liberty.”
The planned departure of Goldberg and Beyoncé has ignited a broad conversation about the demands on artists and the significance of genres in music. Professionals in the industry contend that music, as with any art form, should be progressive and innovative. Dr. Lena Morris, an ethnomusicologist, remarks, “Genres have consistently transformed. The country music we perceive as ‘pure’ today was actually a fusion of blues, folk, and gospel music from the past. Beyoncé’s contributions carry on this legacy of mixing and reimagining.”
Advocates for Goldberg and Beyoncé emphasize that their departure could bring attention to the larger problem of minority artists being typecast into particular genres and pressured to remain in those boundaries. The online community has witnessed an increase in messages and hashtags such as #ArtistsWithoutBorders and #GenreEvolution, as supporters and peers express their opinions on the necessity for a broader and adaptable interpretation of music genres.
On the other hand, there are critics who argue that Beyoncé and Goldberg’s decision to leave the country may be seen as an exaggerated response. They propose that challenging the existing norms from within could potentially bring about more significant changes in the industry. Music critic Jason Keeler expressed, “Although I understand their frustration, abandoning the U.S. music scene could be interpreted as giving up rather than striving to broaden the scope of country music.”
As the ongoing debate persists, it is evident that the impact of Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter and the resulting controversy has surpassed the realm of music, delving into deeper issues of cultural identity and artistic integrity. The discussions it has sparked regarding genre, race, and the future of the music industry are likely to shape how artists are perceived and granted the freedom to express themselves.
Looking forward, the departure of Goldberg and Beyoncé could establish a new standard for artists dealing with similar challenges, indicating that the international music scene may evolve into a fresh arena for creative freedom. This action might inspire more artists to search for environments that embrace diverse forms of artistic expression, potentially leading to a more interconnected and less genre-restricted music landscape.
In summary, Whoopi Goldberg’s choice to support Beyoncé and depart from the United States marks a pivotal moment for the music industry. It emphasizes the necessity for greater openness to artistic exploration and raises complex issues regarding cultural authenticity and the transformation of music genres. As these influential figures prepare for their next phase, the world observes and anticipates the impact of their bold decisions on the cultural realm.
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