Taking my son on vacation felt like a dream come true, but watching the other kids avoid him was a nightmare I didn’t expect. When I confronted them, the truth shattered my heart… and had me marching towards the real culprits: their moms!
Taking my six-year-old son, Jack, on a trip was a dream that I spent years in the making. I’d saved for months to afford a few days at an exclusive seaside resort.
A resort next to the beach | Source: Midjourney
It was the kind of place that boasted private memberships for the well-to-do families who could afford it year-round but also offered guest passes for people like me.
The price wasn’t cheap, but the promise of a pristine beach, a sparkling pool, and endless activities for kids made it worth it. Jack deserved it. As a single mom, I didn’t get many chances to spoil him, and I was determined to make this vacation special.
A woman and her son at a resort lobby | Source: Midjourney
The day we arrived, his eyes went wide. “Mom, look at the pool! It’s so big! And that slide! Can we go swimming right now?”
“Let’s check in and unpack first,” I laughed, walking into the lobby of the hotel area. “But don’t worry, buddy. We’ll have plenty of time to explore everything.”
We reached the receptionist’s desk, and I was smiling like a mad woman. It was such a happy moment that I barely noticed the two ladies standing with their expensive bags and getting help from another attendant.
Two women looking at something in the lobby of a resort | Source: Midjourney
But I should’ve noted how they wrinkled their noses in my direction. It would’ve saved me a lot of trouble… and heartache.
***
That afternoon, Jack and I headed to the main pool. It was massive, with cabanas around the edges and a waterslide that twisted down into the shallow end.
The pool of a luxury resort | Source: Midjourney
My boy clutched his new beach ball and immediately spotted a group of kids playing catch in the water.
“Mom, can I go play with them?” he asked eagerly.
“Of course,” I said, smiling as he trotted over.
I watched as he approached the children with his usual confidence. “Hi! Can I play too?”
The kids stopped and stared at him, then glanced at each other. A few whispered, and then, without a word, they turned and swam away.
Kids by the pool | Source: Midjourney
I frowned as Jack returned to me.
“Mom,” he said. “Did I do something wrong?”
“No, sweetheart,” I assured him, though I was confused too. “Sometimes kids are just shy. Don’t let it bother you, okay? Maybe try again later.”
He nodded, but I saw that his initial excitement had dwindled.
A sad kid by the pool | Source: Midjourney
Unfortunately, this incident wasn’t isolated. It was a pattern I noticed by the second day. No matter where we went, like the pool, the beach, or even the kids’ club, Jack kept trying to join in, and the other children kept ignoring him.
“Mommy,” he asked that night back in our hotel room, “why don’t they want to play with me? Did I make them mad?”
“You didn’t make anyone mad,” I said, pulling him close. “You’re a wonderful kid, Jack. If they don’t want to play with you, that’s their loss.”
A mother and son talking in a hotel room | Source: Midjourney
But inside, my heart was breaking.
By the third day, I couldn’t take it anymore. Watching Jack’s confidence crumble with each rejection felt unbearable. I could play with him, of course, but I also wanted him to be able to play with kids his age.
So, that afternoon, I spotted the same group of boys by the pool and walked over. I schooled my expression and remained perfectly cheerful.
A woman walking by a pool | Source: Midjourney
“Hi there,” I said, crouching slightly to look less intimidating. “Can I ask you something? Why don’t you want to play with my son? He’s a really nice boy.”
The kids froze and exchanged nervous glances. Finally, one of them who seemed older than the rest, stepped forward shyly.
“Um… it’s not him,” he said, shuffling his feet. “It’s you.”
“Me?” I asked, stunned.
A woman looking surprsied and upset | Source: Midjourney
The boy nodded. “My mom and all the other moms said we’re not supposed to play with him because of you.”
I felt a pit in my stomach. “Why would they say that?”
He hesitated, then blurted, “Because you were on some TV show, a reality show, where people fight and act dramatic. Mom said you thought you were better than everyone else and didn’t follow the rules. And… that you were mean to everyone.”
A woman yelling on a beach with cameras around her | Source: Midjourney
I sighed. It was so hard to believe that part of my past was still coming to haunt me.
“Thank you for telling me,” I said, nodding to the boy. Then, I looked to the left and saw a group of women, looking toward us as they lounged by the pool.
Clearly, those were The Moms. I knew immediately the type of women they were, from their postures to their clothes to their stares. They probably had memberships at this resort and came often.
Elegant women laughing by the pool | Source: Midjourney
They must also feel entitled to control the social life of this place. They certainly had an eye on who their kids played with.
But what’s more, I recognized the way they stared at me. I’d seen it many times before from others who thought they knew me because of a show. So, after saying bye to the kids with a real smile (as this wasn’t their fault), I rose and marched straight to their moms.
“Excuse me,” I said, my voice sharp enough to interrupt their chatter and make them look up from their cocktails.
An angry woman with her hands on her hips by the pool | Source: Midjourney
“Hi,” said one of them, squinting her eyes. She flashed a fake, tight smile, her nose pinched like she was above talking to me.
For some reason, I knew she was the ringleader of this group.
“Hi,” I responded flatly. “I just spoke to the kids. I know what you’ve been gossiping about me, and I need to make one thing clear: you don’t get to punish my son for whatever you think I did years ago.”
A woman pointing a finger by the pool | Source: Midjourney
The Queen Bee’s grin faltered. “I’m not sure what you mean.”
“Oh, don’t play dumb,” I snapped. “Your kids told me everything. You’ve been telling them not to play with my son because of some ridiculous gossip about a TV show I was on. A show, by the way, that I left because I refused to participate in the drama and fake storylines the producers were pushing.”
TV producers on an island | Source: Midjourney
Another mom shifted uncomfortably in her chair. “Well, it wasn’t just gossip…”
“Yes, it was,” I said, cutting her off. “I stood up for myself and walked away, and if that makes me ‘a diva’ or ‘mean’ in your eyes, so be it.”
The ringleader crossed her arms. “Look, we were just trying to look out for our kids. You wouldn’t understand—”
Women looking upset by the pool | Source: Midjourney
“Oh, I understand perfectly,” I said, my voice rising. “You’re teaching your kids to judge others based on lies or what some show told you to believe. What kind of example is that? At least there’s hope for them because they told me the truth. Now, I can’t push them to play with my kid, but stop lying to them.”
None of the women responded to that, and they all took pains to avoid my eyes.
“Have a good day!” I snapped and stormed off.
A woman by the pool walking away | Source: Midjourney
Later that day, while Jack and I were building sandcastles on the beach, I noticed one of the moms walking toward me. I told my son to go fetch more water, in case she was coming to say something mean.
She hesitated a few feet away from me, as if stalling, and watched Jack run to the sea. But her steps continued after a second.
“Hi,” she said softly.
I looked up, bored. “What do you want?” I asked, not bothering to hide the edge in my voice.
A woman looking up from her spot on a sandy beach | Source: Midjourney
“I… I wanted to say I’m sorry,” she said, rushing her words. “I was wrong. I shouldn’t have judged you or your son. I also shouldn’t have said a thing to my kids. It wasn’t fair.”
I blinked but nodded slowly. “Okay…” I said. “So, you’re the only one who’s sorry?”
She shook her head and raised her hand. “No, no, no! Actually, they all feel the same way. They’re just… embarrassed. So, I came forward to apologize. We already told the children that we were wrong.”
An elegant woman at the beach | Source: Midjourney
I breathed a sigh. “Alright. I appreciate that.”
She smiled brightly, and now that I wasn’t so angry, I thought she looked beautiful, like a classic Hollywood actress.
A second later, I spotted the Queen Bee walking toward us with two other moms in tow. They apologized as well, and their words felt genuine.
I nodded, accepting their remorse, but I wasn’t sure all was clear. After all, my son was still without friends here.
A woman standing by sandcastles | Source: Midjourney
Speaking of Jack… I turned to look for him by the sea and smiled as my heart swelled. The kids had already gathered around him, and suddenly, they broke into a game of tag.
When I turned back to look at the moms, they were also smiling at the children.
A moment later, the classic Hollywood actress linked her arm with mine. “I’m Julie. Do you want to have a drink with us?” she asked eagerly.
And with that, the rest of the vacation was exactly what I envisioned. I had fun with my boy by the pool and by the beach. I even socialized a lot with the moms, although cautiously.
A mother and son running at the beach | Source: Midjourney
Jack had the fun I hoped he would, and that was more than enough to make me forget about the initial hiccup.
What’s more, this trip reminded me more than ever that adults set the example. If we admit our mistakes, apologize, and do better, our kids will notice. They’ll follow suit.
I’m not perfect, but I try to be the best version of myself, so my son strives for the same.
A mother and son on a porch swing | Source: Midjourney
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Weddings are some of the most beautiful celebrations one can experience in their life (usually). The deep connection between two lovers taking physical form in a ceremonious act for all to see is one that a lot of couples look forward to.
However, it also comes with months upon months of planning, stress, and even more planning. The one thing that a bride cannot go without—the special dress. Whether it be white, maroon, black, fluffy, frilly, or form-fitting, it must make the wearer feel likе the most beautiful woman in the whole entire world.
Some brides take the plunge of crafting their own dresses, be it for the challenge, for the love of the craft, or both. Today we delve into the story of Veronika Lindberg Heino, or Kika, who knitted her special gown for her big day in 6 weeks. She was kind enough to answer some of Bored Panda’s questions so let’s get into it!
Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, decided to take up the challenge of knitting her own stunning wedding dress
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If you were given 2.5 kg of yarn and 250 hours, what would you create? Mayhaps a blanket, mayhaps a 3D portrait, or maybe a knitted wedding dress. Seeing as you clicked on this article for a very particular reason, you probably know by now that we’ll be speaking about the last option.
Opening herself to the challenge was Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, who documented the birth of her special white dress, sharing the ups and downs with her followers on Instagram (which she started in 2017) and YouTube.
This project came about when she and her husband-to-be were both moving house and planning an impromptu wedding, making for a very stressful 7 weeks
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For what was already an intense project, life decided to add an extra bit of *spice*: they were moving house and planning their wedding, happening 7 weeks later, at the same time, so why not add in a project of great significance on top of it all? Unless you’re as skiIIed as Kika, I wouldn’t recommend it!
“I do love a challenge and I’m often a little bit over-ambitious, and the thought felt so wild and inspiring that I just decided to take the risk and do it,” the Finland-based knitter told Good Morning America (GMA). “I ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced my crazy plan on Instagram, and knew right then, there was no turning back anymore.”
She ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced her plans to her followers on Instagram, getting the project officially started with no way to turn back
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Kika based her design around Dior, Chanel, and Ulla Johnson’s dresses. She then sketched and planned the patterns. After all that, the knitting began!
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Nothing worth doing ever comes easy. It was a struggle finding time to knit in between moving, planning the wedding, and publishing her first book
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Instead of throwing Kika off balance, this added project seemed to have the opposite effect: it kept her grounded through the tumultuous time, at least for a while. Nothing worth doing comes easy, and this project was no exception, especially as she’d never knitted a dress before.
“The process was definitely intense, and the biggest struggle was to find enough time for knitting since we were in the process of moving and organizing the wedding at the same time,” said Kika. “Plus I published my first-ever knitting book, so it was definitely hectic. But, I also enjoyed it immensely and loved seeing my vision come to life in the process.”
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Then a big setback occured—her bodice was far too big, requiring her to rip it all up and start again. Her sleeves then kept slipping off, which took lots of time to fix
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Glaring issues started appearing about two weeks in when Kika had finished the bodice and tried it on for the first time—it was way too big. Disappointed, but not defeated, the bride-to-be ripped it all up, starting all over again, describing it as “a tough and frustrating moment where some tears were shed.”
One more issue came along with the slippy sleeves that kept on slipping, revealing a tad bit too much, which Kika found hilarious yet time-consuming to fix. “I made sure to film all my mistakes so I could be real and honest with my viewers, rather than only showing them the picture-perfect moments,” she told Insider.
Not having any other option (you typically can’t just go and buy a dress off the rack, as those require alterations, which take a long time), she kept moving forward until it was one week til the wedding. Encouraging messages from her followers kept her spirits up, the promise she’d made to the project at the very beginning providing her with a sense of accountability.
However, “the biggest motivator was definitely seeing for myself if I could pull my idea and vision off, and the thought of having the dress as a memory for life really kept me going, too.”
But all that didn’t deter her! Just 4 days before the big day, the dress was finished and Kika got to have a well-deserved rest
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Everything was done. She finished her dress on Tuesday, feeling more tired and frustrated than elated, but once she put it on for the ceremony, she couldn’t have been happier with the end result.
Kika got married to her husband Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home (which inspired the cottage-themed wedding tone), just 4 days after she’d finished her dress. Although her partner was a bit more skeptical about her last-minute knitting project, “in the end, he was super impressed and proud of me, and thought it looked really good too,” Kika said.
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Kika told Bored Panda that they’d met back in Spring of 2020, when she moved back home to Finland from London, as the pandemic put the world in lockdown. “Just a few months after moving back I met Juki and for our first date we walked around in Helsinki for hours since all cafés and bars were closed due to the restrictions,” she said.
“I was immediately drawn to his humor and often colorful stories of his adventures which made me laugh, and of course I found him really handsome. I think he was drawn to my enthusiasm, something we both have in common and my positive attitude towards life.”
She married Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home. Everyone loved her dress, praising her for all the effort she’d put into it
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“Over the course of the day, guests would come up to me and immediately feel the dress and comment on it. It sometimes felt likе they were more interested in the dress than in me, but I love talking about knitting, so I didn’t mind too much,” she told Insider.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295, which is a bargain when it comes to wedding dresses, which go for $1,800 on average. Her 149k followers on Instagram absolutely loved the journey, jumping in with suggestions and support any time she needed it.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295
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The 46-minute vlog of the whole journey posted on YouTube has garnered over 3.4M views, quickly becoming the highlight of her channel, which has over 253k subscribers that look forward to her knitting tutorials. “I’m absolutely amazed by all the positive attention the video and my dress has gotten, wow!” said Kika.
“I’ve received messages from people all over the world telling me I’ve inspired them to take up knitting again or to learn it, which makes me so glad. I’m also proud that I’ve maybe been able to push the boundaries and show what is possible using knitting.”
According to Kika, “knitting was actually done primarily by men at some point in history, so the fact that knitting nowadays is associated with something mostly feminine hasn’t always been the case.” Knitting is not just for grandmas, y’all!
The 46-minute vlog of the entire process garnered over 3.4M views on YouTube, inspiring hundreds of people to take up or go back to the craft
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What began as a bonding activity with her grandma when she was 5 years old has become a lifestyle, bringing together likе-minded people from all over the world. The one lesson she’d always kept was to be playful with the craft, rather than searching for perfection.
“With knitting there are a lot of ‘rules’ or principles that come with the territory which sometimes can make it feel likе you’re not doing things the right way,” she told Bored Panda. “My grandmother always encouraged me to make things without getting hung up on perfection, being creative and playful was more important.”
She hopes her followers and those who jumped on the bandwagon to see the final dress get inspired to embrace creative projects they might feel tempted to try—“even if it might feel a bit ambitious, I say go for it!”
We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and can’t wait to see what’s coming up for them next!
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A post-pandemic resurgence of knitting is a very welcome sight for many who are getting into arts and crafts for the first time or returning back to the familiar time-passing activity. Recent research shows that knitting has a measurable effect on calming anxiety, relieving stress, and aiding with chronic pain, as well as helping one build a community of friends. And you end up with a cute hat and mittens in the meantime!
“I think knitting as a craft teaches you a lot about patience and really makes you think about what kind of garments you most likе to wear,” Kika said. “When you’re going to spend 40-60 hours making a sweater, you really want to make sure it’s something that is going to stay in your wardrobe for a long time, which makes knitting a very sustainable practice, too.”
Honestly, what’s not to love!? We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and hope to see many more exciting knitting projects! Let us know your thoughts on the dress in the comments below, and I shall see you in the next one!
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