I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
15 Strong Women Break Stereotypes About How the Body “Should” Look
There are women out there who are challenging societal norms and breaking free from the constraints of what the media tells us we “should” look like. These 15 women are not just strong physically, but also mentally and emotionally as they pave the way for body positivity and self-love. Their stories are inspiring, empowering, and proof that there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to the human body.
1. “To trim or not to trim…. That is the question…”
2. “Call me Ariel and hand me a Dinglehopper because I’m a mermaid.”
3. “I’ve struggled with body image my whole life, but I’m realizing I kind of look like those statues of Ancient Greek women.”
4. “I was always worried about my big stomach in jumpsuits, but I finally figured out that I look good.”
5. All bodies are beautiful, including everything that makes you feel comfortable.
6. At the end of the day what’s important is that you feel great in your body.
7. “Only 4 more days till we meet the trio! So itchy!”
8. “I’m beautiful and I love my body!”
9. “This is a reminder to you all that you can have cellulite and spider veins and still be hot!”
10. “I ordered this corset top for my wedding this summer. I’ll definitely be rocking the hairy pits for the ceremony/reception.”
11. “Finally getting happy with my body.”
12. “Love my dress, learning to also love my body.”
13. Lizzo explains: “I love normalizing my black elbows. I think it’s beautiful.”
14. Tyra Banks is happy with her body: “My body is fuller. And so is my mind.”
15. “You are more than your body, and you get to decide what beauty is,” model Iskra Lawrence believes.
Check out these articles too, to get your daily dose of inspiration:
- 11 Famous Models Who Aren’t Afraid to Show Their Unfiltered Side
- Why Body Positivity Doesn’t Actually Promote Obesity
- 24 People Who Changed Their Hairstyle and Jazzed Up Their Life
- 21 People Who Changed Themselves Without Plastic Surgery
- 20+ People Who Changed Their Look So Dramatically, Even Their Relatives Didn’t Recognize Them
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