A Kentucky dad’s life changed forever when he and his wife welcomed quintuplets into the world. However, he never anticipated the harsh critique and hate that would come as a result of his parenting choices.
Parenthood keeps moms and dads busier than full-time employment, and couples often have to learn new skills on the job. No matter how hard they try, they never get everything right, and the job becomes even more challenging when there is more than one child.
However, the joy of being a parent makes all the sleepless nights and sacrifices worthwhile. Sadly, people don’t see everything moms and dads do for their little ones, and onlookers can be brutal.
THE HAPPY FAMILY OF SEVEN
Jordan Driskell and his wife Briana adored their five beautiful children, Zoey, Dakota, Hollyn, Asher, and Gavin. Raising quintuplets was a significant life adjustment, but the couple enjoyed every minute.
Many online users weren’t impressed with Jordan’s parenting choices, and they made their opinions abundantly clear.
They had to come up with various creative parenting techniques to ensure their brood was taken care of and safe. Managing their household required full-time attention, and dad Jordan was always eager to spend time with his little ones.
STRUGGLES WHEN LEAVING THE HOUSE
Taking the children for an outing in the park or a fun day of entertainment might sound like a great idea, but Jordan knew it was never easy and always came with a few concerns.
Leaving the house with all five kids was a task worthy of a gold medal. Jordan and his wife initially used a six-seater stroller to help their brood get around. However, they changed their style and opted for something less bulky and ridiculous.
THEIR CHOSEN PARENTING STYLE
The loving parents started using a leash whenever they left the house with all five kids—and it worked for them! The proud dad shared:
“Kids are so curious — they want to run off and explore. For our own peace of mind and sanity, we use a leash. It also allows us to leave the house and do fun stuff as a family without being stressed.”
Jordan Driskell and his five kids. | Source: Tiktok.com/drixxleman
THE DAD’S REASON FOR USING A LEASH
Jordan provided another justification for using a leash, noting that his kids always wanted to walk when they were in crowded places. It was a safety concern, and the leash prevented any of the children from getting lost.
The simple tool allowed the kids much-desired freedom but also gave the parents a level of control. However, when Jordan shared a video in 2022, he quickly realized everyone didn’t approve of his parenting style.
The kids were enjoying a fun day at the aquarium with a twist—they were on a leash. The footage went viral, and netizens didn’t hold back.
Jordan Driskell and his five kids. | Source: Tiktok.com/drixxleman
CRITICAL COMMENTS
Many online users weren’t impressed with Jordan’s parenting choices, and they made their opinions abundantly clear. Commenters questioned his actions, and one person indicated he should have had fewer kids if he wasn’t up for the challenge:
“This is deeply disturbing. Teach your kids to behave so you don’t have to use a dog leash. Not cool.”
– (@maureenmurphygrzyb) August 2, 2022
“Bro they’re missing muzzles.”
– (@dtdjt091909) August 3, 2022
“They need to learn to listen to you and they need to learn to be independent. If you can’t control them them don’t have them.”
– (@Ada Hunter) August 3, 2022
“Leashes on kids should be illegal. You have your opinions but it’s just wrong, even rabbits don’t go on leashes, why should children?”
– (@_..maybe_) August 1, 2022
SUPPORTIVE COMMENTS
The comment section also featured positive feedback, with parents praising the dad’s actions. Moms and dads thanked him for putting the safety of his family first, while others stated it was a clever idea:
“I said, ‘I’ll NEVER put my kids on a leash!’ As a mother with two energetic toddlers at the same time, I grabbed the first monkey backpacks with leashes I could get my hands on!”
– (@authortraciejohnson) August 3, 2022
“Anyone who disagrees with his method has never taken care of five toddlers at one time! Even preschools use a rope system to walk to the playground.”
– (@graftymarie89) August 3, 2022
“I had one for my daughter – nothing wrong with it – she was able to run around but close enough to me in a crowd.”
– (@Ligita212) July 31, 2022
“If you are being judged for protecting your children, then the judgmental folks have no clue about the value of life on any level.”
– (mboyd1990) July 31, 2022
CONTRASTING PROFESSIONAL OPINIONS
Dr. Deborah Gilboa, an expert in the field of parenting and youth development, shared her thoughts about the use of a leash. She supported the technique and called it “creative problem-solving.” The doctor added:
“This isn’t treating kids like animals. The alternative would be just staying at home … Just because you can’t identify with the problem doesn’t mean it’s not there.”
CONCERNS ABOUT LEASH INJURIES
Another pediatrician had a different viewpoint. He noted that he didn’t support using leashes on kids because the method treated them like pets. The professional explained:
“As the father of three, I am well aware of how quick, impulsive, and unpredictable kids can be. But from an injury standpoint, I would worry about entanglement or choking.”
Questions To Ponder:
- Is the father justified in using a leash to manage his kids?
Parents move heaven and earth to provide and care for their children. Moms and dads indeed know what is best for their little ones, and if it isn’t harming anyone, parents should be allowed to do whatever works for them.
- What might be an alternative course of action for the father-of-five?
It is always easier to point fingers, but many people aren’t able to provide alternative solutions for struggling parents. For moms and dads having a tough time keeping an eye on all of their kids, it might be advisable to get additional help. Perhaps a family member or friend can come along while running errands, so a leash isn’t needed.
My Stepson’s Fiancée Told Me ‘Only Real Moms Get a Seat in the Front’ — So I Watched the Wedding from the Back… Until My Boy Turned Around
I never expected to cry at my stepson’s wedding. Not from the back row, watching through a sea of strangers. And certainly not when he stopped halfway down the aisle, turned around, and changed everything with six simple words.
I first met Nathan when he was just six years old, all big eyes and skinny limbs, hiding behind his father’s leg at our third date. Richard had mentioned he had a son, of course, but seeing this small, wounded child changed something inside me.
His eyes held a wariness no child should know, the kind that comes from having someone walk away and never look back.
A boy looking straight ahead | Source: Midjourney
“Nathan,” Richard had said gently, “this is Victoria, the lady I told you about.”
I knelt down to his level and smiled. “Hi Nathan. Your dad says you like dinosaurs. I brought you something.” I handed him a small gift bag containing a book about paleontology.
I didn’t give him a toy because I wanted him to know I saw him as more than just a child to be placated.
He didn’t smile, but he took the bag.
A gift bag | Source: Midjourney
Later, Richard told me Nathan slept with that book under his pillow for weeks.
That was the beginning of my relationship with him. The child needed stability, and I knew exactly how to handle him.
I didn’t rush things and didn’t try to force affection. When Richard proposed six months later, I made sure to ask Nathan’s permission too.
A boy looking straight ahead | Source: Midjourney
“Would it be okay if I married your dad and lived with you guys?” I asked him one afternoon while we baked chocolate chip cookies together.
He considered this seriously while licking batter from a spoon. “Will you still make cookies with me if you’re my stepmom?”
“Every Saturday,” I promised. And I kept that promise, even when he became a teenager and claimed cookies were “for kids.”
A close-up shot of cookies | Source: Pexels
When Richard and I married, Nathan’s biological mother had been gone for two years. No phone calls, no birthday cards. Just a gaping absence that a six-year-old couldn’t understand.
I never tried to fill that void. Instead, I carved out my own place in his life.
I was there for his first day of second grade, clutching his Star Wars lunchbox and looking terrified. For his Science Olympiad in fifth grade when he built a bridge out of popsicle sticks that held more weight than any other in his class. For the devastating middle school dance when his crush danced with someone else.
An upset boy | Source: Midjourney
Richard and I never had children of our own. We talked about it, but somehow the moment never seemed right. And honestly, Nathan filled our home with enough energy and love for a family twice our size.
The three of us settled into a rhythm all our own, building traditions and inside jokes that stitched us together into something that felt like family.
“You’re not my real mom,” Nathan told me once during a heated argument when he was thirteen and I’d grounded him for skipping school. The words were meant to wound, and they did.
An angry boy | Source: Midjourney
“No,” I said, fighting back tears. “But I’m really here.”
He slammed his bedroom door, but the next morning I found a crudely drawn “sorry” note slipped under my door.
A handwritten note | Source: Midjourney
We never spoke of it again, but something shifted between us after that. As if we’d both acknowledged what we were to each other. We understood we weren’t bound by blood, but by something we chose every day. Something that we couldn’t put into words.
When Richard passed away from a sudden stroke five years ago, our world collapsed. He was only 53.
A coffin | Source: Pexels
Nathan was about to start college then. I can never forget the look on his face when he learned his father was gone.
“What happens now?” he asked later, his voice small like the six-year-old I’d first met. What he meant was, Will you stay? Will you still be my family?
“Now we figure it out together,” I told him, squeezing his hand. “Nothing changes between us.”
And nothing did. I helped him through his grief while navigating my own.
I paid his college application fee, attended his college graduation, and helped him shop for professional clothes when he landed his first job.
I did everything Richard would’ve done for his son.
A young man in a suit | Source: Midjourney
On his graduation day, Nathan handed me a small velvet box. Inside was a silver necklace with a pendant that read “Strength.”
“You never tried to replace anyone,” he said, eyes shining. “You just showed up and loved me anyway.”
I wore that necklace every day after. Including the day of his wedding.
An outdoor wedding venue | Source: Pexels
The ceremony was held at a stunning vineyard, all white flowers and perfect lighting. I arrived early, like I always do. Quietly. No fuss. I wore my best dress and Nathan’s necklace.
In my purse was a small gift box containing silver cufflinks engraved with the message, “The boy I raised. The man I admire.”
I was admiring the floral arrangements when Melissa approached.
A floral arrangement at a wedding | Source: Pexels
I’d met Nathan’s fiancée several times before. She was beautiful and accomplished. A dental hygienist with perfect teeth and an even more perfect family. Two parents still married after thirty years. Three siblings who all lived within twenty miles of each other. Family dinners every Sunday.
“Victoria,” she said, air-kissing near my cheek. “You look lovely.”
“Thank you,” I smiled, genuinely happy to see her. “Everything looks beautiful. You must be excited.”
A woman at a wedding | Source: Midjourney
Melissa nodded, then glanced around quickly before leaning closer. Her voice remained polite, her smile fixed, but something in her eyes had hardened.
“Just a quick note,” she said softly. “The front row is for real moms only. I hope you understand.”
I wasn’t expecting that. Nope.
At that point, the humiliation made me suddenly feel aware of the wedding planner standing nearby, pretending not to listen. I even noticed how one of Melissa’s bridesmaids froze when she heard those words.
No one said a word in my defense.
An older woman | Source: Midjourney
I could’ve created a scene if I wanted to, but I decided not to. I didn’t want to ruin Nathan’s wedding.
“Of course,” I said softly, voice steady despite the earthquake happening inside me. “I understand.”
And with dignity I didn’t feel, I walked to the back row, present clutched in my lap like an anchor, fighting tears that threatened to ruin my carefully applied makeup. I reminded myself that this day wasn’t about me. It was about Nathan starting his new life.
A young man at his wedding | Source: Midjourney
As guests filed in, filling the rows between us, I felt every one of those empty seats like a physical distance. It felt awful how seventeen years of middle-of-the-night fevers and homework help and soccer games and heartbreaks had suddenly been reduced to “not a real mom.”
As guests rose to their feet, craning their necks toward the entrance, I stood too. This was Nathan’s moment. I wouldn’t let my hurt overshadow his happiness.
The officiant and groomsmen took their places at the altar. Then Nathan appeared at the end of the aisle. My throat tightened at how much he looked like Richard. How proud Richard would have been.
Nathan took a step forward. Then another.
A man walking at his wedding | Source: Midjourney
The familiar confidence in his stride reminded me of the boy who’d once raced down soccer fields as I cheered from the sidelines.
Then, inexplicably, he stopped.
The music continued, but Nathan stood frozen halfway down the aisle. The officiant made a subtle “come on” gesture, but Nathan didn’t move forward.
Instead, he turned. Slowly. Deliberately. His eyes scanning the rows of seated guests, moving from front to back.
Until he found me.
A young man looking straight ahead | Source: Midjourney
“Before I get married,” he announced, “I need to do something. Because I wouldn’t be here today if someone hadn’t stepped in when no one else would.”
Murmurs rippled through the crowd. I felt the weight of curious stares. My heart hammered against my ribs as Nathan walked purposefully past the front row, past Melissa’s confused parents, straight to the back.
To me.
He stood before me as his eyes glistened with unshed tears. Then, he held out his hand.
“You’re not watching this from the back,” he said. “You’re the one who raised me. You’re the one who stayed.” He swallowed hard, then said the words I’d never expected to hear.
A groom | Source: Midjourney
“Walk me down the aisle, Mom.”
Mom.
Seventeen years, and he’d never called me that. Not once.
Gasps echoed through the venue. Someone’s camera flashed. I felt lightheaded, my legs trembling as I rose to take his offered hand.
“Nathan,” I whispered, “are you sure?”
His grip on my hand tightened. “I’ve never been more sure of anything.”
And so, together, we walked down that aisle. Each step felt both ordinary and miraculous. This boy I’d raised. This man I’d helped become.
A man walking down the aisle with his mother | Source: Midjourney
At the altar, Nathan did something else unexpected. He pulled out a chair from the front row and placed it beside his.
“You sit here,” he said firmly. “Where you belong.”
I searched for Melissa’s reaction through my tears. She had a fake smile but didn’t say anything as I took my rightful place in the front row.
The officiant, after a poignant pause, cleared his throat and said, “Now that everyone who matters is here… shall we begin?”
A wedding officiant | Source: Midjourney
The ceremony proceeded beautifully. I watched through happy tears as Nathan and Melissa exchanged vows, hoping they would build a life as meaningful as the one Richard and I had shared.
At the reception, Nathan clinked his glass to make his first toast. The room quieted.
“To the woman who never gave birth to me… but gave me life anyway.”
A man at his wedding reception | Source: Midjourney
The entire room rose to their feet, applauding. Even Melissa’s family. Even Melissa herself, who caught my eye and offered what seemed like a genuine nod of respect.
Later, as Nathan led me onto the dance floor for what would have been his dance with Richard, I felt my husband’s presence so strongly I could almost feel his hand on my shoulder.
“Dad would be so proud of you,” I told Nathan as we swayed to the music.
A woman smiling while talking to her son | Source: Midjourney
“He’d be proud of us both,” Nathan replied. “And I want you to know something.” He pulled back to look me in the eyes. “I’ve had a lot of people walk in and out of my life. But you… you’re the one who stayed. Blood doesn’t make a mother. Love does.”
Sometimes, the people who try to diminish your place in someone’s life don’t understand the depth of the connection you’ve built. The quiet moments. The ordinary days that, strung together, create an unbreakable bond.
And sometimes, the people you’ve loved quietly and fiercely, year after year, surprise you. They see you. They remember.
And when the moment finally comes, they turn around.
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