My story is about how my ex-husband’s girlfriend realized a truth about him that I grew too comfortable with while married to him. With one important question, his new girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson about self-love after reaching out unexpectedly.
I’ve been divorced for five years now, and it’s been an interesting journey navigating life post-marriage. My ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I, 45, were together for 13 years and had two wonderful kids. Even after our split, we’ve managed to stay on good terms.
We co-parent effectively despite our marriage having its ups and downs. Ben and I are best friends and have also maintained a friendship that surprises most people. Our divorce wasn’t messy; we simply wanted different things out of life.
Yesterday was our eldest’s 16th birthday, and we decided to celebrate with a family dinner. Ben has been seeing someone new, a woman named Lisa, for about four months. He told me about her as soon as their relationship got serious.
Transparency was part of our agreement to keep things open and honest for the sake of our children. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner, and while I wasn’t thrilled as I would have preferred to meet her one-on-one first, I didn’t want to cause any drama or be intrusive. So, I agreed.
On that fateful day, I finally got to meet Lisa who was friendly, and eager to make a good impression, which was a relief. I preferred her to be a good person if she was going to be around my children.
She’s got a kind smile and she immediately struck up a conversation with me about the kids’ school and activities. I could tell she was trying hard to fit in, which I appreciated.
As the evening went on, I noticed how attentive Lisa was to Ben. It was sweet but also a little unsettling because I never saw that side of him during our marriage. I chalked it up to new relationship energy and tried to focus on the kids and the celebration.
Halfway through dinner, things got weird when my eldest handed me a birthday card from her father. This caught me off guard because my birthday was months ago. No one usually remembers it, and Ben has never been one to recall such occasions.
Don’t get me wrong, my children’s father is a great man. But he’s really terrible with things like anniversaries, birthdays, or any special occasions. During all the years we were together, Ben never got me a present or card.
It was also my responsibility to handle events like the kids’ birthdays, Christmas, and more. I don’t know if I was wrong for this, but his forgetfulness didn’t bother me. I thanked my daughter, feeling touched by the gesture.
Lisa, sitting across from me, saw my surprise. I had assumed she’d made him get it, but then I noticed how she was giving me these funny looks. Unsure what they meant, I decided to mingle with other guests to avoid the awkwardness.
But, Lisa somehow managed to get my attention. “Ben mentioned he’s not great with birthdays,” she said with a chuckle. “He forgot mine a few weeks ago. Is it intentional?”
I laughed, remembering all the missed anniversaries and forgotten special days. “I have no idea, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two kids wasn’t the benchmark because he never really got the hang of it,” I replied. “It’s just who he is.”
Lisa seemed disappointed and tried to hide it, but I thought nothing of it and wandered off to talk to other guests. I decided to shift the conversation to something lighter and talked about family plans and the upcoming holidays. The rest of the evening went smoothly, and we all parted ways with smiles and hugs.
Later that night, as I was getting ready for bed, I received a text from an unknown number. It was my ex’s new girlfriend. “Hi, this is Lisa. I got your number from Ben. I hope it’s okay to text you. I wanted to ask you something.”
Curious, I replied, “Sure, what’s up?”
Her response came quickly and when I read it, I was STUNNED. She hadn’t gotten over our brief conversation earlier and was asking if Ben’s forgetfulness of special occasions was something that could be fixed. “I know this might seem odd because we touched on it earlier, but I need to know…”
“…Does Ben ever improve when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries? I don’t want to make a big deal out of it if it’s something that won’t change.” I stared at my phone, feeling a mix of emotions. Part of me wanted to warn her, to tell her not to ever expect much.
But another part of me debated whether to give Ben a heads-up as it seemed like this was a serious issue for his new girlfriend and that she expected more attention to such things. Yet, a part of me resented having to teach him to be better about something he never tried with me.
I also felt like it wasn’t my place to interfere. After a moment, I typed back, “Honestly, he’s my ex for a reason. I can’t say if he’ll change or not, and I’m not going to have the answers you need.” I continued, “It’s something you’ll have to figure out together. Lovely meeting you, though.”
Months went by without much thought about that night. Then, one evening, Ben called me out of the blue. “Lisa and I broke up,” he said, sounding frustrated.
“What happened?” I asked, genuinely curious.
“She kept making a big deal out of nothing, busy complaining about birthdays and anniversaries. I told her it’s not something I care about, and she just wouldn’t let it go,” he said, sounding furious.
“It turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left,” he explained, his voice tinged with annoyance.
I sighed, feeling a twinge of guilt as I wondered if I could’ve helped them if I had been more supportive of Lisa when she texted me. “Ben, did she tell you it was important to her?” I asked, feeling like my responses to Lisa played a part in their breakup.
He was silent for a moment. “She told me on many occasions that such things were important to her.”
“But WHO CARES! You never made it a big deal,” he said defensively.
Tired of coddling him, I said, “Well, sir, and that’s why we divorced.”
“That’s mean, Kim,” my ex replied, sounding sad.
“Look, I’m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn’t matter to you,” I replied calmly. “But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t important to me. Or to her. You have to meet people halfway.”
Ben grumbled something under his breath, and I could tell he wasn’t ready to accept that truth. We ended the call on a neutral note, and I sat there, thinking about Lisa. She deserved someone who would appreciate her efforts and reciprocate her feelings.
A few days later, I bumped into Lisa at the grocery store. She looked tired but managed a smile when she saw me. “Hi, how are you?” she asked politely.
“I’m good, thanks. How about you?” I replied, genuinely concerned.
“I’ve been better,” she admitted. “Ben and I broke up.”
“I heard,” I said softly. “I’m sorry it didn’t work out.”
She sighed. “I couldn’t deal with feeling unimportant. I tried to explain it to him, but he didn’t seem to care.”
I nodded, understanding her frustration all too well. “It’s hard when someone doesn’t value what you do. You deserve someone who will.”
Lisa smiled sadly. “Thanks. I appreciate that. I guess I hoped he could change.”
“Change is hard for some people,” I said gently. “But don’t lose hope. You’ll find someone who values you.”
We parted ways, and I felt a strange sense of closure. Lisa’s struggle mirrored my past frustrations, but it also highlighted how much I had grown since my marriage ended. I had learned to accept Ben’s flaws, but I also realized that I deserved more than what he was willing to give.
That evening, I sat down with my children and talked about their dad. I wanted them to understand that while he had his shortcomings, he loved them deeply. We laughed about his forgetfulness and shared stories of the good times we had as a family.
As I reflected on everything, I felt a deep sense of peace. I had moved on from the hurt and disappointment and was ready to embrace whatever the future held. I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved, and I knew that I had done the right thing by not getting too involved in their relationship.
In the end, it wasn’t about birthdays or anniversaries. It was about finding someone who truly valued and appreciated you for who you are. I did not doubt that Lisa would find that person someday, and I knew I was finally content with my own life.
As I looked at my children, I felt grateful for the love and joy they brought into my life. We had our good and bad moments, but we were a family, and that was what mattered most. And as for Ben, I hoped he would eventually learn to value the important things in life.
For now, I was happy. I had my kids, friends, and a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in a long time. And that was more than enough.
If you enjoyed Kim’s story, you’ll love this one about a woman who got pregnant around the same time her son’s girlfriend was also expecting. The son’s girlfriend caused a rift in the family when she made demands of his mother about naming her child.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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Queen Camilla’s ‘secret’ role to help Kate Middleton, revealed
Other members of the royal family have had to step up while King Charles and Kate Middleton endure cancer treatment. The treatment started in January when King Charles first received his diagnosis and Kate had abdominal surgery. The agenda has altered as a result of the enormous responsibilities that Prince William and Queen Camilla have taken on.
Given the dearth of working royals in recent months, Prince William and Queen Camilla have received accolades for their work ethic, but it has also had a cost.
Queen Camilla and Kate Middleton share a lot of similarities. Since they are both married into the royal family, they have occasionally had to face with intense public and press attention. In Kate’s instance, it was only a few weeks prior, as her Mother’s Day photo proved to be staged. Though it has been a difficult time, the Princess of Wales has received a lot of support, not the least of which has come from Queen Camilla, who has gracefully demonstrated her support.
The royal family is enduring a really trying period. Kate Middleton revealed her cancer diagnosis to the world last week. King Charles has been fighting cancer since January.
The Princess of Wales had stomach surgery in January, but her precise medical status was unknown until this week. For months, there have been rumors circulating regarding her well-being and her union with Prince William. However, when Kate shared the moving video on Friday via the Prince and Princess of Wales’ social media accounts, it effectively silenced conspiracy theories and the several celebrities who had been making fun of her online.
Kate Midleton’s declaration of cancer
In full, Kate Middleton’s statement said:
I wanted to take this chance to personally thank you for all of the kind words of encouragement and for your patience while I was healing from surgery.
Our entire family has had a very difficult few months, but I am so grateful to my wonderful medical staff for their excellent care.
I had extensive abdominal surgery in January in London, and the diagnosis was first ruled out as cancer. The procedure went well. On the other hand, postoperative tests revealed the presence of malignancy. Consequently, my medical team recommended that I start a prophylactic chemotherapy course, which I am currently undergoing.
Naturally, this was a major shock, and for the benefit of our small family, William and I have been doing everything in our power to digest and deal with this secretly.
It has taken some time, as you may imagine. In order to begin my treatment, I had to take some time to heal from a significant operation. Above all, though, it has taken some time for us to convince George, Charlotte, and Louis that everything will be alright and to explain everything to them in a way that is suitable for them.
I am well and gaining stronger every day by concentrating on the things that will support my mental, physical, and spiritual healing, as I have stated to them.
William is on my side, which gives me a lot of comfort and confidence. As is the affection, encouragement, and kindness so many of you have shown. It is really important to both of us.
We sincerely hope you will appreciate that, as a family, we now require some privacy, space, and time as I finish my therapy. I have always found great delight in my profession, and I look forward to returning when I am able, but for the time being, I must prioritize my full recovery.
I’m also thinking of everyone whose life has been touched by cancer right now. Please don’t give up or lose hope for anyone dealing with this illness, no matter how it manifests itself. You’re not by yourself.
“Please don’t give up hope or faith.”
Prince William stepped up and took on a lot of responsibilities while Kate Middleton had surgery. In addition to providing care for the couple’s three children, Prince George, Princess Charlotte, and Prince Louis, he has assisted Queen Camilla with royal tasks while the king and princess heal.
The future king is definitely a hands-on father who helps out around the house more than anything else, including running the kids to and from school.
Similar to Prince William, Queen Camilla has gained a lot of recognition lately. She has had a very difficult time in the royal sphere because of the press and British public’s disapproval of her early relationship with King Charles. Still, things have changed.
Growing in popularity, Camilla has received recognition for her dedication, particularly for managing her royal responsibilities while King Charles is receiving cancer treatment.
During King Charles’s cancer treatments, Queen Camilla received recognition for her dedication.
Even this week, GB News featured royal analyst Angela Levin, who said that Queen Camilla is “holding the royal family up.”
“After all, waiting until you’re 73 years old to assume the throne is a long time.” At his age, it’s undoubtedly quite difficult, but he’s incredibly determined, and he’s only really just begun to rule,” Levin remarked. “Queen Camilla is fully supporting him, standing by his side, attending all the events that they would have attended together if she hadn’t been invited.”
He will be able to sense that it is still running and moving in this manner, and they will be able to converse about it. And that’s fantastic, in my opinion. She is being strong and supporting the Royal Family, after all. Imagine that thirty years ago, everyone predicted that the Royal Family as a whole would fall apart and that she would become useless.
According to Levin, Camilla has disclosed that she dislikes being in the spotlight. When she meets members of the public, though, she makes people laugh and has become quite “accessible.”
“In order to help her spouse. Given that they were together for more than 50 years—before they were even married—she knows him extremely well. Angela Levin continued, “It’s a long time and they make each other laugh,” on GB News.
Kate Middleton’s public image suffered greatly after the Duke and Duchess of Sussex made discoveries that led to her conflict with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, but the princess hasn’t seen any media criticism since she was named an official member of the royal family.
Kate Middleton receives backing from Queen Camilla through public criticism.
Of course, the video announcing her cancer diagnosis revealed the reason for her quiet. Nonetheless, others have argued that it was already terrible enough that she released a photo of herself and her kids that had been altered.
Camilla became into a vital source of support for the Princess of Wales as Kate Middleton came under intense scrutiny following the Mother’s Day photo.
As stated by Camilla Tominey, assistant editor of The Telegraph, in a Today interview, the queen “has been trying to help [Catherine] through the media storm aspect in all of this.”
Tominey stated, “I believe Camilla provided some support prior to [Catherine] making the announcement because she was having to deal with the fallout of everything that was said about the Mother’s Day photo and everything else.”
“Because, let’s be real, Camilla is familiar with the challenges of being in the media. She continued, “She understands what it’s like to guide kids through a media maelstrom.
Queen Camilla is the one member of the royal family who truly understands what it’s like to be under constant scrutiny from the public and media.
Then-Prince Charles admitted to being unfaithful to Diana in 1994. Although that was the first time Charles had acknowledged the allegations, the name of his mistress remained a secret.
But in that month, Jonathan Dimbelby published an official biography of Charles, establishing that Camilla was the woman he had been seeing.
Following the revelation of her relationship with Charles, Queen Camilla was terrified to leave her home.
It was unknown how much the now-queen was impacted by her affair with Charles being made public. However, royal analyst Angela Levin, author of Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall: A Royal Survivor, disclosed in a 2023 interview with OK Magazine that Camilla had to put up with “torrents” of abuse from the general population.
She was so frightened of going shopping that she wouldn’t even leave her house.
She was portrayed as the world’s most nasty lady, therefore it was quite difficult for her. She was referred to as a “rottweiler” on a regular basis, so Levin claimed that it must have surprised her much that people thought such horrible things about her.
“I don’t think Charles realized how awful it was for her,” Levin continued. Camilla didn’t have protection officers at the time because she wasn’t a member of the Royal Family, and he was frequently gone on engagements while working hard for the nation and Commonwealth. However, Charles paid for her protection after realizing what had happened.
As time passed, Camilla’s popularity with the general public grew. Angela Levin believes she “must still bear the scars of it all,” despite this.
Regarding Queen Camilla’s role as a senior royal, what are your thoughts? Kindly spread the word about this article to express your thoughts and to wish Kate Middleton and King Charles the very best during their cancer treatments.
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