With tattoos becoming increasingly popular, it is not uncommon to come across individuals who have extensive body art. Unfortunately, some people face criticism and even calls for their children to be taken from them. One such case is that of a Canadian man named Remy who has spent over $100,000 on tattoos and has encountered criticism on social media, with some people telling him he’s not a suitable father.
He doesn’t feel guilty about being a tattooed dad.
Despite his extensive amount of ink, Remy doesn’t feel guilty about his tattoos, nor does he believe they’ve changed who he is as a person or a father. He says, “Tattoos and piercings haven’t changed at all, so I wasn’t worried that my son would see me differently.”
But the man has been criticized for not being a stereotypical father.
Remy shared that he has received online comments suggesting that his son should be taken away from him due to his appearance. He stated, “I’ve had a few people say things like my son should be taken from me because of how I look, but this is only ever online.”
He continued, “My argument to that would be that if you think that way, you should never have children yourself.”
Remy added that while people stare at him in public, they only say nice things and ask questions about his tattoos. “People stare a bit [in public] but they only say nice things and ask how long it took, how I handle the pain, and generally compliment my work,” he attests.
His child is nonchalant toward his father’s tattoos.
Remy’s first tattoo was of his son’s name, but since then, he has become obsessed with getting more and more ink. His son never really noticed his tattoos.
“He’s never really noticed them, as I was already pretty different looking [when he was born in 2009] — it’s completely normal for him. As he’s gotten older, he’s become very nonchalant, and it’s actually made him more tolerant of people being different looking, I believe,” Remy says.
In fact, Remy’s son’s favorite tattoo is the eye on his stomach and chest.
Being a good parent has nothing to do with superficial looks.
While some may argue that Remy’s tattoos make him an unfit parent, it’s important to remember that body modification is a personal choice and doesn’t necessarily reflect one’s ability to be a good parent. As long as a parent is providing a safe and loving environment for their child, their appearance should not be a factor in determining their ability to care for their children.
One of Remy’s fans explained things in a wonderful way.
As one commenter on Remy’s story put it, “You give the cloth and care about what you do. As long as you can put a roof over your child’s head, it’s not anyone’s job.” Ultimately, it’s up to each individual to decide how they want to present themselves to the world, and that decision should not be used to judge their worth as a parent.
As we conclude this story of unfair judgment and inked journeys, it’s only the beginning of our exploration into the world of those living tattooed lives. In our next article, we’ll introduce you to a mom whose 800 tattoos have become a barrier to employment, shedding light on the surprising consequences of living life fully inked.
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My Husband’s Family Always Excludes Me from Dinners, So One Time I Taught Them a Real Lesson
A 32-year-old woman took to Reddit to share how she was excluded from her husband’s family events during their three-year marriage. Despite being married to her 35-year-old husband, she was invited to only half of the family dinners, unlike her husband’s brothers’ significant others. Her husband often told her to “sit this one out,” which left her feeling isolated and excluded.
The tipping point came when she was asked to stay home once again. Frustrated, she made a reservation at the same restaurant and arrived shortly after her husband, catching his family off guard. Her husband was flabbergasted, and her mother-in-law deemed her actions rude. She defended herself, stating she just wanted to eat steak and had no intention of joining them.
When her husband returned home, he was angry and called her names. In a heated argument, he revealed it was a “family decision” to exclude her. Pressed further, he admitted his mother’s dislike for her race, personality, and political beliefs. Horrified but vindicated, she packed her belongings and went to her sister’s house.
In an update, she shared that the comments on her post gave her the confidence to confront her husband. She realized that her mother-in-law had pressured him into excluding her because she was half-black and didn’t fit their family mold. She felt it was likely they would either separate or divorce.
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