In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
Isabella Strahan’s Inspiring Journey: A Battle with Cancer
The 19-year-old daughter of former NFL player Michael Strahan, Isabella, recently gave an update on her valiant fight against cancer. Isabella broke down in tears as she announced on social media that she would only need four chemotherapy sessions as opposed to the six that were initially scheduled. She was overcome with delight at hearing this unexpected news, which was a big step in the right direction for her recuperation.
Isabella was given a medulloblastoma diagnosis last year. This kind of cancer is found near the base of the brain. In January 2024, she courageously revealed her experience during an interview on Good Morning America, which made her diagnosis public. Isabella is resilient and unflappable in spite of her struggles.
“I feel fantastic. Not too awful,” Isabella said in the January interview, demonstrating her fortitude in the face of difficulty.
October 2023 marked the start of Isabella’s journey as she enrolled in her first year of college at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles. She sought medical attention when she began to experience recurrent headaches. As the symptoms worsened, nausea and trouble walking straightened out. When Isabella woke up one day in late October and started vomiting blood, her condition took a sharp turn for the worse. At first, her problems were thought to be caused by vertigo. She contacted her sister, who then alerted their entire family, as soon as she realized something was really wrong.
Isabella has fought cancer with incredible strength since learning of her illness. She gave a positive update in a recent YouTube video, revealing that she will only require four chemotherapy cycles as opposed to the original six. Knowing that Isabella is halfway through her therapy, the burden on her shoulders began to ease, and she shed these happy tears.
I’ll finish up in May. Isabella grinned and said, “And I can kind of try and have a summer to feel better.” And I’m overjoyed since I had assumed I would be finished by the end of July. My goal was to complete six rounds in all. After that, I would actually have to return to school immediately. I’m overjoyed.
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