Mark Bryan is a robotics engineer who has been married for 11 years and has a daughter. He identifies as straight and chooses to dress unconventionally. Bryan is an American living in Germany, and he doesn’t believe that fashion has to be gendered. You can find Bryan wearing a skirt and heels to work or out anywhere else he goes on any given day.
Bryan said he doesn’t like how limited men’s choices are in the fashion department, especially when it comes to office attire. Men’s pants only come in a few colors, mostly black, gray, dark blue and the occasional pinstripe, and cuts.
The stylish dresser believes that if women are allowed to wear pants, men should be able to wear skirts and dresses as well. Bryan likes how skirts come in many styles and patterns – and many more colors – unlike men’s clothing.
Bryan prefers to mix traditional gender looks by wearing masculine attire on his top half, like a blazer and tie, and traditionally feminine attire on the bottom half. He will typically wear a pencil skirt and four-inch heels on the bottom.
Wearing high heels is no problem for Bryan. He first learned how to do it when his college girlfriend asked him to wear high heels while dancing with her so that they were on the same level. They continued this for over a year.
Bryan doesn’t let stereotypes or assumptions stop him from dressing in a way that brings him joy. He challenges expectations and does so unapologetically. Keep reading to hear what Bryan has to say about his fashion choices.
Bryan has a very clear idea about how he likes to dress. He told Bored Panda: “To me, clothes have no gender. I prefer skirts to dresses. Dresses don’t allow me to mix the genders. I prefer a ‘masculine’ look above the waist and a non-gendered look below the waist. It’s all about clothes having no gender.”
He continued: “I am old enough to remember that in school, the girls could not wear pants. Pants have now become a non-gendered article of clothing. So why can’t skirts and heels be non-gendered? Besides, men wore heels before women did. Maybe not today’s stiletto-style heels, but men did wear heels before women.”
Bryan is correct about that. High heels can look back on a long history. Although historians and archaeologists cannot date their invention clearly, they have been around at least since the 10th century. And they were not a fashion statement at first. No, the first recorded use of high heels was eminently practical: the Persian cavalry wore boots with heels, called a kalash or galesh, that made it easier for them to keep their feet inside their stirrups. This is, by the way, the same reason why cowboy boots have a small heel as well!
Since owning a horse was a sign of wealth, only well-off men could afford to wear these high-heeled boots. The use of them slowly spread across Europe, and high heels heels became one of the fashion signs of rich noblemen or traders. In fact, following the Great Schism of the Christian Church in the 11th century, even the pope wore high heels.
It wasn’t until several hundred years later that fashion slowly changed. During the 18th century, cultural concerns in Europe came up about the distinction between males and females and talk about what men and women should wear arose. This is the point in time where the belief that fashion is something effeminate and frivolous that “real men” shouldn’t care about hails from. Due to these changing beliefs, men largely abandoned high heels heels, as they were seen as impractical and mere accessories.
Bryan is one of the examples of how high-heels are slowly coming back as an accepted form of footwear for men. Although the engineer champions the option of wearing high-heeled shoes for men, he understands many people will look twice when they see him. He compares his style choices to someone who chooses to dye their hair bright colors. He explained:
“Take a person with bright green hair. Green hair is not normal. You look up and see this person, your mind tells you it’s a person with green hair, you think to yourself, that’s odd or interesting, then you go back to do what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. I believe this is the same when people see me in a skirt and heels.”
Bryan doesn’t have to struggle to find skirts and heels that fit him either. He wears a size 8 in skirts, and with smaller feet for a man, his shoe size in heels is 8.5. If you know a man who is considering trying out wearing heels and skirts too, Bryan suggests starting with a lower heel until you feel more comfortable walking in high heels.
What do you think of Mark Bryan’s style choices? Do you know any men who would try walking in high heels? Let us know, and be sure to send this along to your friends and family.
Meet Antoine Cheval: “The Frenchman Who Chose to Marry Himself After Facing Repeated Rejections”
In a world where traditional relationships and marriage are often viewed as life milestones, Antoine Cheval, a French man, has taken a bold and unconventional step by marrying himself. After experiencing numerous failed relationships and repeated rejections to his marriage proposals, Antoine, who identifies as a “sologamist,” chose to commit to the most important relationship in his life: the one with himself.
Who is Antoine Cheval?
Antoine Cheval is a French individual who, following years of personal challenges and heartbreak, made the radical decision to marry himself. His embrace of sologamy—also known as autogamy—emerged as a response to repeated romantic disappointments. By choosing to marry himself, Antoine made a profound statement about self-love and personal worth. His self-marriage ceremony included all the traditional trappings: vows, a reception, and guests, symbolizing his commitment to living authentically and on his own terms.
Antoine’s journey is part of a broader trend where people around the world are exploring self-marriage as a way to affirm their independence, self-worth, and emotional fulfillment. He sees his act not just as personal, but as a challenge to societal norms surrounding love and relationships.
What is Sologamy?
Sologamy, or self-marriage, is the act of committing to oneself in a ceremony that symbolizes self-love and independence. While it lacks the legal standing of traditional marriage, sologamy is a symbolic gesture that underscores a person’s dedication to their own happiness and well-being. Practitioners of sologamy often view it as a celebration of self-empowerment and a way to prioritize their personal growth.
Critics argue that self-marriage is purely symbolic and does not confer the legal or social benefits of traditional marriage. Supporters, however, see it as a powerful affirmation of self-worth and a rejection of societal pressures to find validation through others. For many, marrying oneself represents a commitment to personal happiness, emotional health, and independence.
Self-Marriage Celebrations
Self-marriage ceremonies often mirror traditional weddings, complete with vows, guests, a reception, and even a wedding cake. Some individuals also undergo counseling or personal reflection to prepare for the emotional commitment of marrying themselves. These ceremonies provide an opportunity to reflect on past relationships, embrace self-love, and move forward with confidence.
While often associated with affluent women in the 21st century, sologamy is not limited to one gender or demographic. People from various backgrounds have embraced the practice, viewing it as a way to prioritize self-care and redefine what it means to be fulfilled.
Notable Examples of Sologamy
Antoine Cheval is not the only person to make headlines for marrying himself. In 2014, British photographer Sophie Tanner celebrated her self-marriage with a ceremony attended by friends and family. Tanner explained that she wanted to honor herself as an independent woman, free from societal expectations.
In 2017, Italian fitness trainer Laura M married herself following a divorce, citing the act as a means of reclaiming her identity and empowerment. Her ceremony included traditional wedding elements, symbolizing a fresh start and a renewed commitment to herself.
In 2022, Kshama Bindu, a woman from Gujarat, India, became the country’s first known sologamist. She married herself in a traditional Hindu ceremony, complete with cultural rituals, after deciding she didn’t need a partner to experience the joy of being a bride. Bindu, who identifies as bisexual, described her self-marriage as an act of self-love and a challenge to societal norms.
Self-Love and Personal Empowerment
The rise of sologamy challenges conventional ideas of love and relationships by emphasizing self-acceptance, independence, and emotional resilience. While not everyone may embrace the concept of self-marriage, it highlights the importance of cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself. By marrying themselves, individuals like Antoine Cheval demonstrate that love doesn’t always have to come from a partner—it can come from within.
Antoine’s story, along with those of others who have embraced sologamy, serves as a reminder that self-love is foundational to personal happiness. Their actions encourage a broader dialogue about the value of prioritizing oneself and finding fulfillment independent of societal expectations.
So, whether or not sologamy resonates with you, it offers an important lesson: loving and valuing yourself can lead to greater empowerment, happiness, and emotional well-being.
“To Antoine Cheval and everyone who dares to put themselves first—may your stories inspire others to embrace their worth, celebrate who they are, and live authentically.” 
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