Despite efforts to accept ourselves at any size and more realistic-looking models in advertisements, a large number of people worldwide suffer from eating disorders on a daily basis.
A Derbyshire lady who overcame anorexia has shared her experience in the hopes that it would support others experiencing similar difficulties.
Annie Windley weighed just 29 kg, or slightly more than four and a half stone, at her heaviest. She was in danger of having a heart attack because of her low weight.
The 21-year-old Woolley Moor resident has been battling anorexia for more than five years, during which time she has required extensive care, medical therapy, and multiple hospital stays. Annie, on the other hand, is in great shape and has recovered thanks to her passion of jogging. In October of last year, I ran the Chesterfield Half Marathon.
She said, “I had the happy awareness that the process of rehabilitation is amazing and should be exhilarating, remarkable, and amazing.
I suppose my anorexia will always be a part of me, even though I’ve learned to manage it and get over my obsession with eating. “It is never too late to make a positive change.”
Annie was first diagnosed with an eating disorder in 2012. When her recuperation finally began two years later, she faced numerous challenges, including being sectioned and experiencing uncontrollably rapid weight loss.
In October of 2017, I began battling more fiercely than I had ever done before; she went on, “I can’t say exactly what occurred, but this time, it was just for myself.”
The battle was amazing; every day was filled with agonizing emotions and remarkable bravery. I’m at my heaviest since 2014 after gaining three stone in the last four months.
Annie claims that she gained the realization that a person’s actions, their mannerisms toward others, and their degree of kindness matter more than their physical stature. According to her, these are the things that truly matter in life.
“These are the things that are essential to you and will bring you happiness.” Rather than organizing your entire day around eating or worrying about how to restrict, use that time to focus on something that matters to people.
Be a kind friend and daughter, make jokes, and engage in conversation with them. Exercise is typically believed to enhance mental health, and Annie is no different. Her passion for running gave her something to strive for, helped her heal, and kept her on course.
Her recuperation was aided by her participation in Chesterfield’s yearly half marathon. She ran the kilometers during her training, putting in a great deal of work and determination to complete the difficult course.
I use my morning run as an opportunity to remind myself of how fleeting and important life is. I can live a more flexible, free life now that I’m well.
I’m fortunate to have strong legs and a pounding heart, so I don’t waste time worrying about meals or watching calories. Exercise is a celebration of what your body is capable of, not a way to make up for what you ate.
“Pay attention to your desire to succeed and your excitement for where you want to go.” Annie claimed that all she had ever done was avoid meals like pizza and chocolate because the voices in her head turned them into numbers and percentage signs.
She has thankfully altered her viewpoint and offers guidance to those who have similar views.
There are bad days when you think recovery isn’t for you, feel “fat,” and lack the desire to eat. However, that is the very reason we have to continue.
We have to demonstrate to our disorders our ability to do so. We don’t want to spent our entire lives regretting and feeling sad about the things our anorexia prevented us from accomplishing.
Watch the video below to see her entire story:
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My Husband Canceled My Birthday Dinner So His Friends Could Watch the Game at Our House — He Regretted It
On her birthday, Janine plans the perfect evening. Homemade dinner, candlelight and the quiet hope of being seen. But when her husband arrives with his friends and forgets everything, she makes a decision he never saw coming. This isn’t just a story about a ruined dinner. It’s about the night a woman finally chose herself.
I’m not dramatic.
I don’t need grand gestures or rose petals on the floor. I’ve never dreamed of surprise parties or social media tributes with sparkly filters and “I’m so lucky” captions. I don’t want to be the center of attention, twirling in a spotlight.
A pensive woman | Source: Midjourney
I never have.
But once a year, on my birthday, I believe that it’s fair to ask for a little effort. A little pause. A little something that says, Hey, I know you exist. I’m glad you’re here.
Just one evening. To feel seen.
Apparently, even that is too much.
A woman sitting at a table and holding her head | Source: Midjourney
I’m Janine. I’m the wife who remembers your coffee order, who packs snacks for your long drives, who listens, really listens, even when I’m exhausted. I’m the one who irons your shirts before your big meeting and makes sure that there’s a fresh towel when you step out of the shower.
I know the exact way you like your pie crust. Flaky, never soggy. I restock your cold meds before you even realize you’re sick. And when you’re down, I hover like you’re the last man on Earth, delivering soup like it’s sacred.
I don’t make things about me. I never have. I’ve always found comfort in the background, in the quiet flow of taking care of everyone else.
A freshly baked pie on a kitchen counter | Source: Midjourney
But this year?
I just wanted one day. One moment. One simple celebration that wasn’t something I had to build with my own two hands.
And I thought, I really thought, that he’d notice.
I sat on the porch step with a mug of matcha warming my hands, watching the last of the evening light spill over the driveway. The scent of jasmine drifted from the garden I kept alive alone, season after season.
A woman sitting on a porch step | Source: Midjourney
And I remembered another birthday.
Two years ago. A Wednesday. I came home from work to find the house quiet. No card. No cake. Just a sink full of dishes and Kyle in the den, cursing at his fantasy football stats.
“I’ll make it up to you this weekend,” he’d said, not looking up from his laptop. But he never did. The weekend came and went with errands, Kyle nursing a hangover, and a quick dinner at a noisy bar where he checked his phone between bites of pizza.
A man sitting on a couch with his laptop | Source: Midjourney
I didn’t cry then, either, in the silence of my own company. But I realized something bitter:
He didn’t forget. My husband didn’t forget. He just didn’t think that it mattered.
And that realization landed harder than any missed dinner ever could.
A woman laying in her bed | Source: Midjourney
But this year, I decided to change everything. I wanted it to be about me. I needed it to be about me.
I planned my own birthday dinner.
Not a restaurant… I didn’t want to force Kyle into anything “extra.” No reservations, no price tags, no fuss. Just a quiet evening at home with candles flickering in little glass holders.
Candles on a table | Source: Midjourney
Kyle’s favorite roast lamb, slow-cooked with rosemary and garlic. A jazz playlist humming in the background. The table set with linen napkins I’d ironed that morning, polished silverware and two wine glasses we’d barely used since our anniversary three years ago.
For dessert, I made a cake from scratch. Lemon zest and almond cream because when we were still dating, my husband had mentioned that flavor reminded him of his grandmother. He’d only said it once, in passing.
But I remembered.
A cake on a platter | Source: Midjourney
I even bought myself a new dress. Navy blue. It was fitted at the waist, soft against the skin. I curled my hair, put on a touch of lipstick and dabbed the perfume he bought me four Christmases ago. The same perfume that I’d only worn twice.
It smelled like hope to me.
I wanted to be seen. Not in a social media post way. But in a “my husband actually notices me” way.
Which is why I planned the entire thing… for my birthday.
A smiling woman wearing a navy dress | Source: Midjourney
By the evening, everything was ready. The lamb rested on a serving dish. The wine was chilled. The mint sauce was in a little white bowl. The cake was cooling under a glass dome.
I checked the clock. Rechecked the table. Adjusted the vase of tulips. Smoothed the front of my dress with slightly shaking hands.
And then, the front door opened. Laughter, loud and thoughtless, spilled down the hall.
A vase of tulips on a dining table | Source: Midjourney
The smell of greasy pizza took over the house. The thud of boots not wiped at the door. The air had shifted immediately.
Kyle walked in, laughing with his friends. He was balancing two twelve-packs and three pizza boxes. Behind him were Chris, Josh and Dev. Kyle’s game-night crew. They called out greetings, already halfway to the couch.
No “happy birthday.” No flowers. Not even a glance at the candles I’d lit or the silverware I’d polished. Just noise, beer and the sound of something inside me quietly folding in on itself.
Boxes of pizza on a coffee table | Source: Midjourney
“Kyle?” I called. “Come here a sec?”
He sighed and walked toward me.
Kyle looked at the table and paused.
“Oh, right…” he said slowly. “This was tonight, huh? Yeah, we’re going to have to reschedule, Janine. The guys are here to watch the game.”
A frowning man wearing a sports jersey | Source: Midjourney
There was no apology. No hesitation. Just a lazy shrug and a look toward the couch.
He plopped down like he owned the room, kicked off his shoes and reached for the remote. The TV lit up in a flash. His voice rose over the music I had carefully chosen. He cracked a beer and held it up like a trophy.
I just sat there, at the dining table, trying to understand when I’d lost my husband.
A pair of boots on the floor | Source: Midjourney
“Starving, babe,” he said a few minutes later, standing right in front of me. “I’m taking the lamb. Looks delicious. There’s pizza if you want.”
He took the roast lamb and started picking at it. The one I’d basted and brushed every half hour. The one I made to feel like a hug on a plate.
Josh came to the table and grabbed the bowl of roast potatoes. Chris poured wine into a red Solo cup. Dev joked about the candlelight, calling it “romantic for a dude’s night.”
A platter of roast lamb | Source: Midjourney
I stood in the doorway, hands at my sides, watching.
Watching the napkins I’d ironed crumple beneath greasy hands. Watching the food I’d made for myself, on my own birthday, disappear into paper plates and careless mouths.
Watching my night die in real time. In front of me.
An upset woman standing in a doorway | Source: Midjourney
But I didn’t cry. I didn’t scream.
Instead, I smiled. A small, hollow thing.
“Wait,” I said calmly. “I made something really special for tonight. Just give me five minutes, okay?”
They nodded, barely looking up, thinking I probably had dessert or some party trick coming. They went back to their chatter and chewing.
A man holding a plate of pizza | Source: Midjourney
But that was it. I wasn’t having it anymore. Enough was enough.
I walked to the laundry room. I opened the fuse box. Took one last deep breath and shut everything down. The power, the Wi-Fi, the backup router.
All of it.
The house dropped into sudden darkness. The TV cut off mid-commentary. The fridge stopped humming. The only sound was the dull confusion rising in the dark.
A woman standing in a laundry room | Source: Midjourney
“Babe?!” Kyle’s voice echoed down the hall.
“What happened?” I asked.
I returned to the kitchen with a candle in hand, illuminating the untouched birthday cake still glowing on the counter like a soft little rebellion. I picked up my phone and texted my parents.
“What’s going on?” Josh mumbled.
Candles on a dining table | Source: Midjourney
“Power outage,” I said simply. “You’ll probably have to call someone. Might take a few hours.”
Then I packed the rest of the food, well, what hadn’t been mauled, into containers. I slid them into a tote bag, grabbed my coat and keys and walked right out of the door.
No one stopped me.
Leftovers in a container | Source: Midjourney
I drove to my parents’ house. My sister was there. So were a few old friends from the neighborhood. There were balloons. Gifts. A hand-drawn banner. A cake from the 24-hour bakery. How they managed to do all of that in the 30 minutes it took to get there, I’ll never know.
There was music that didn’t make my ears ring. There was no loud sport commentary. There was laughter that didn’t feel forced.
There was a seat, just for me.
A birthday cake on a table | Source: Midjourney
And for the first time in years, I felt celebrated.
I laughed. I danced. I ate a slice of cake that didn’t taste like obligation. There were candles, hugs, stories from old friends who still remembered the girl I used to be. For once, I didn’t feel like an afterthought. I felt like Janine, not someone’s wife, or someone’s “MVP.”
I was just… me.
A smiling woman sitting at a table | Source: Midjourney
I got texts, of course. Missed calls. Kyle even left a voicemail. His voice was laced with confusion more than concern.
“You’re seriously mad, Janine? Over dinner? Call me back.”
I didn’t.
But I returned home the next morning.
A cellphone on a table | Source: Midjourney
Kyle was in the kitchen, arms crossed, his foot tapping against the tile like he’d been practicing his speech.
“Seriously?” he snapped the moment I walked in. “Cutting the power? Over a missed dinner? I was still in the house! We were sharing the dinner with my boys! That was just so dramatic, Janine.”
His tone was all accusation and zero apology. Like I was a child who’d flipped a Monopoly board instead of a woman who’d finally run out of patience.
An annoyed man | Source: Midjourney
I didn’t answer. Just slipped off my coat, set down my bag and pulled out a neatly wrapped box from the tote.
“What’s that?” he blinked.
I handed it to him without a word. He tore at the wrapping, the irritation still clinging to him.
Then he saw what was inside.
A box on a table | Source: Midjourney
Divorce papers. They weren’t real, yet. I hadn’t had the time to get real papers drawn up. This was something I’d downloaded off the internet at my parents’ house. There were no names on it but I figured that it would get the message across.
Kyle’s hands froze mid-flip. His brow furrowed as he scanned the top page, as if some fine print might reveal it was a joke.
“You can’t be serious,” he said finally, his voice quieter now. Less sure.
I looked at him, really looked, and saw a man so used to being prioritized that it never crossed his mind that I might choose myself.
Divorce documents on a table | Source: Midjourney
“You’re right,” I said, my voice soft. “I wasn’t serious. Not about dinner. Not about birthdays. Not about me. I stopped being serious about what I needed a long time ago, Kyle.”
I paused, taking a deep breath.
“But I’m done being the only one who cares.”
I walked past him, the click of my heels the only punctuation I needed. I didn’t look back. But as I reached the doorway, I stopped.
A frowning woman wearing a sweater | Source: Midjourney
I pulled the candle from my bag, the one that had stayed lit through dinner, through the drive, through the quiet.
I walked back into the living room, set it gently on the windowsill and lit it. Its glow was steady. Small. Defiant.
Kyle stood behind me, confused.
“The power’s back,” he said stupidly.
A candle lit in a windowsill | Source: Midjourney
“It’s not about that. It’s not for that. I don’t need the power back on,” I said. “I found everything I needed in the dark, Kyle.”
And then I left. No speech. No slam of the door.
Just the quiet sound of a woman choosing herself for the first time in far too long. I’m not sure what game they were watching that night… but I know who really won. Because I may have walked out with cold leftovers and one flickering flame. But I also walked out with my dignity.
And I never looked back.
A woman walking down a driveway | Source: Midjourney
What would you have done?
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